Depression Support Group

Depression is a real and debilitating condition that is often misunderstood by family and friends. Its meaning can range from a prolonged period of sadness to an actual mental illness with specific symptoms. Find and share experiences with others who are going through the same struggles.

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Myk 06/18/2017

I moved to another state to care for my father who was diagnosed with stage 4 cancer. He started hospice care and a passed in my arms early on a Wednesday morning. I decided to adopt his dog and with my dog we stayed in the house that he passed away in. So it was myself and two big dogs. My younger sister by 2.5 years suffered from addiction. My father was the one who alwasy took her in and nursed her back to health until she would again relapse. I mentioned to my older brother 2 weeks before our father's passing that I fear our sister won't make it a year after dad is gone. 2 weeks before the first anniversay of my father's death, I received the phone call. My sister was found dead in a motel room. She had overdosed. She left two young children behind, a 13 year old daughter who's father was murdered when she was a baby, and a 1.5 year old son who is with his father. I hear them talking to me and I've started responding to them. I live alone with my dogs and I feel like I've slipped into a mental fog. I haven't slept more than 5 hrs in a night for over a year, I have severe chest pains and shortness of breath. My thinking and actions have become completely irrational. Every time I try to get going, I fall back down. I'm afrain my actions will land me in trouble. I'm scared and alone.

Perry314 06/19/2017

You are such a strong person. You have survived. It sounds like you need some you time and to be nurtured. To have the focus on you, so you can let go, relax and have your needs met. You have been the care-taker and now you need to re-coup from that process. To process your emotions, grieve and release everything you have had to hold onto during this time of being strong for others. It's really hard when we are caring for others to step away from that and nurture ourselves. Have you considered talking with a therapist to guide you through this time? You deserve to have undivided attention focused on what you have been through. It is completely normal that you are feeling scared and alone, but that can and will change. We all need to have that time for ourselves to replenish

enfieldguy 06/19/2017

Wow man, just wow. You are doing the best you can to keep it together but that's a lot! If you want to talk just message. I lost my parents young and distanced myself from my siblings.

sharaninmd 06/19/2017

Sorry for the loss of your father and your sister. You have been the caretaker for so long and now it's time to take care of you. You have put your family first, then yourself. Allow yourself some time to grieve. If you feel you are unable to do it alone, maybe see a counselor or a therapist to help you through this difficult time.

Myk 06/19/2017

Thank you all. I went to see my local priest today and he was gone for the holidays. I guess for father's day. He wont be back for a week. A therapist I was scheduled to begin seeing last Tuesday canceled on me prior to our appointment due to illness. Do you ever feel like the world is closing in and something is coming for you? Do you ever feel scared and can't get the worst thoughts out of your head? Please tell me I'm not alone here.

DryEyes90 06/19/2017

When it rains, it pours! At least that's how it was been here in Florida lately. I think I can say at this point,
"One day at a time, One moment at a time!"

Your not alone* :)

jstar845 06/26/2017

I am truly inspired by your strength. I extend my condolences for your beloved father and sister. I know that you are a wonderful and loving person to care for your father. You’ll clearly a strong person. When dealing with death you should keep friends, family ad etc. close to you even if you feel like you want to be alone. It’s okay to be alone sometimes as this is how you feel. But, make sure you talk and vent to those close to you. There is free online therapy websites if you would like to research these if you feel you want to talk with a therapist. We are here for you through this online community. Hugs and I’m praying for you.
Lastly, to help you with what you are going through try to 1. Take a time-out- Practice yoga, listen to music, meditate, get a massage, learn relaxation techniques. Stepping back from problems helps clear your head.
2.Exercise daily- makes you feel good and maintains your health.
3.Accept that you cannot control everything
4.Talk to someone-vent and let them know you need help. Friends, family, doctor, therapist
5.Eat well-balanced meals- Do not skip meals and eat energy boosting snacks.
6.Take deep breathes- Inhale and exhale slowing throughout the day when you are feeling stressed.
7.Maintain a positive attitude- Replace negative thoughts with positive thoughts
8.Keep a journal to express your thoughts and feelings
9.Continue to seek help online

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