I know what you mean. I become hard on myself whenever someone I care about gets mad with me even if it's trivial. Sometimes it's hard to please other people

It is sooooo hard to please others. I know that shouldn't be our main focus, but its still there. I do so much for other people that I lose track of myself. Then when I try to do something for myself I feel guilty.

I used to cut and burn myself as a teenager but I got over that. And now I don't have a way to cope with my depression. I cannot afford to see a therapist or to be on medication every month because I have 2 kids to put before myself. Sorry about my rambling on....

It sounds like you're doing a lot in spite of your depression and you're still there for your kids. That takes real mental strength. It's also fine to take a little time for yourself like when you made this post. You deserve to feel better about yourself

Thank you. I truly need those words of encouragement.

I know a little bit how you are feeling. I tend to hate myself. I wish you well.

OMG yes. I understand how you feel. I am still beating myself up over every single mistake I make. I cannot seem to move on as well. Stay strong! I have a family so I understand how you feel

I used to be a people pleaser too. I would always feel guilty when someone did not appreciate what I had done for them. Then one person came along side of me and told me, "you cannot please everyone and you are not made to make everyone happy all the time." That left me confused for awhile, so I thought on it and kept thinking. So I decided to ask this person how do I fix this problem? He told me; "you don't fix it, you need to pray to Jesus and give it up to Him and let Him fix it." So, I did, nothing happened. I was getting frustrated and more confused. I had a husband and a good group of friends who were very supportive of me, encouraging me and advising/mentoring me. This one friend, came to me and asked me a thought provoking question that has stuck with me all these years later. "What is TRUE, what is REAL,what is JUST? what is LOVE?" ...And what do you put your faith in?...
Then my friend/mentor told me about this book; "Loving God With All Your Mind" In this book were the same questions that she asked me to think about. "What is True, - (truth is real, a fact, can be proven.) What is Real,- ( alive, factual, truth.) What is Just,- ( right thing to do, but not always fair or easy, factual, real.) What is Love,- (Kind and compassionate, caring, truthful, real, trustworthy, loyal, just,..) After spending time with my friend and mentor and going through this book, my mind was finally clear and I understood and I was able to pray to God asking for His forgiveness about how I was feeling about myself. I asked Him to help me be an overcomer and be come strong and courageous to boldly stand firm against these feelings of guilt and depression. I have since be come an overcomer , I still struggle from time to time, but I pray to God during those time and ask Him to take away the thoughts and anxieties that I may have then and for him to redirect my thoughts to something positive. Then I have to focus my thoughts back to "what is True, Real, Just and Lovely." I strongly suggest that you pick up the book "Loving God With All Your Mind" by Elizabeth George. There is also a study manual that goes with it that might help you to go through it a little bit easier too! I will pray for you!

Thank you. I really appreciate that. I am feeling this way again today. I feel invisible andlonely a lot of the time.