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Cali123 02/15/2007

I posted this in my journal yesterday and I'm still feeling kind of bad about it. My husband knows that I've been more depressed than usual lately. To try to cheer me up, he got me some really sweet Valentine's gifts, but I had asked him not to do anything. I feel awful because I didn't do anything special for him. I feel like the worst wife EVER. How can I make this up to him? I couldn't even spend time with him last night because I was too exhausted! *sigh* I just want to cry, but I can't cry anymore because I feel that I've used all my tears through the years. How can I make him feel special?

deleted_user 02/15/2007

I'm sure he understands and he tried to help cheer you up by getting you things. If he's that understanding to want to help I'm sure he understands why you didn't get him anything or why you felt you couldn't spend time with him last night. Real love is giving not expecting anything in return and though I don't know him I'm willing to bet that's how your husband feels. Just be happy to have him and count your blessings for everything God has given you!

deleted_user 02/15/2007

Just tell him truthfully that you didn't expect to celebrate Valentine's Day but you appreciate his loving sentiments.

To make him feel special, just make him a nice dinner and break out the music and candles. After dinner, chill out with him and watch a favorite movie. Put on an outfit you feel beautiful in and put on some make-up and perfume. It doesn't have to be Valentine's Day to make him feel special.

deleted_user 02/15/2007

Hi Cali123,

You may feel unworthy of the love he give by showing it in offering gifts and things as such.

I am Thankful he did do all of this to shower you with love reminding and wanting to cheer you up. Inspite of, he did good for he love you.

Love, love, love.

He is most likely not thinking of what you in turn did not give. And you know something, what you can offer him is priceless and canot be bought in the store.

Give hime you... in Hugs, Kisses, Intimacy. Jazz and Spice it up though..this is not just the usual fancy.

Take him into another world.. give it some thought and come up with ideas working with what you have at home.

Even if you are not Too in this mood, you'll have to work over time to get this new mood swinging. Do you have a favorite song you adore listening to? That will help enlighten you and cast your cares away for now.

I am sending you L

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