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feeling so depressed

radrm
radrm
When I think about who cares about me the list is very short. Due to an abusive situation with my ex I lost my friends and family was never really there in the first place. I am even not paying my cell phone bill because my cell phone is a waste of money. My ex and I broke up over 3 weeks ago now. I have not had anyone call me or if I tried to call them they dont call back. Even my mom and sister can't call or answer an email I sent to them. I feel like nobody cares about me and now the ex is on that list too. I am better off without him but i have a life that totally needs rebuilding. If i write or call my friends they don't answer back. Nobody wants anything to do with me. If not for my son I would feel like I don't even need to be here. Nobody cares. I know it sounds like I am pitiful and at this point I think i am. Why is it that I have no friends or family who at there for me? It does make me ask myself a question. Am I a bad person for being in an abusive situation with my ex? Is it me? Is that why nobody loves me? Im sorry its just so depressing and I am having trouble seeing any good in my life right now. Yes its better than being abused but I am so depressed and alone now. I know I need to heal and rebuild my life and things should get better in time but right now its depressing. This is the only place I have where I can talk to anyone. Im glad I found this site because it gives me something to hang on to.
ZAZAS
ZAZAS
You ended the relationship with you ex or are you still in an abusive relationship with him? You are better off if he doesn't call you back. You have to mourn the end of relationships, even the bad ones. Get started on rebuilding your life without him. I think you will feel better at that time.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I have been where you are and it is devastating. I can tell you agree. I don't know how I am pulling through, but somehow I find hope deep inside me to keep going. I wish I knew an answer to help you feel better. Please know you are not alone in this. Let's keep talking and come up with a way to make us both feel better.
radrm
radrm
No I am not with him anymore its been over 3 weeks since we broke up and I don't want him back. I am sticking to the no contact rule so I dont get tempted to go back again. I feel sure I won't and don't want to be with him ever again. I am trying to rebuild but its a very slow process. The good thing is after a very uneventful last weekend this one coming up I am going on a retreat and will be around people so that is good for me. Work is not good lately I keep running out of work and have to look busy too much for my liking. I would rather be busy the time would go faster. I need to make new friends but it is going to take a while.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I was in your shoes about 15 years ago, I was in an abusive relationship and when I was finally able to get out, he went to jail, I had no one, just me and my daughter. At least it felt that way to me, because I had built a wall around myself and had shut everyone out, they had a hard time believing that I was 1. away from him for good, and 2. I really wanted them in my life, since I had pushed them away so many times.

It took a lot of convincing and lots of I'm sorry letters to them, but now they are fully in my life. Always remember you are not alone in this, we are all fighting the battle.
ElenaNJ
ElenaNJ
I've been here for 7 years thru hard times witt teenagers. There is nothing wrong with you. You are a gentle soul. I hope that you start to feel better. Mb u can just think about places that u wd like to volunteer that u wd like to volunteer at, like the soup kitchen or the library. To get out and be with some people who are nice.

I don't talk to my sisters either about things, my one sister didn't talk to me for many years Bcz I was stripping, and that hurt me so u really can't even count on family. Your depression is not your fault but I learned in the hospital that our recovery is our responsibility. Not easy when we look around and who's there, no one. Sigh. It's ok tho. We can build up our lives, we are still "youngISH" ha. So , I hope you r with me.

An u have helped me so much lately, such an intelligent girl. It is a pleasure to kno u and b ur friend even cirtually
cyndy001
cyndy001
I am in a similar situation. You sound like you are handling it well. One thing you can do is find a therapist or mental health worker to start a relationship with. You may have to shop around to find someone good. That has kept me going. I volunteer as well. I am always looking for things that interest me that I can get involved in. It is slow but I am very impressed by your resolve. I really see a strength in you that is pushing for better things in life. Take some pride in that and use you down time to do somethings that are nice for yourself.
radrm
radrm
I'm thinking of making an appt with a care coordinator and maybe they have a counselor and maybe groups i can go to or something. That is a good way to meet people too. I used to do groups and it helped me but they sort of shut that door saying I didn't need them anymore but I think I need them if nothing else just to be around some people! Where do they get these counselors????