Depression Support Group

Depression is a real and debilitating condition that is often misunderstood by family and friends. Its meaning can range from a prolonged period of sadness to an actual mental illness with specific symptoms. Find and share experiences with others who are going through the same struggles.

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wolfdreamer2013 05/17/2014

Me and my partner have been together for a lil over a year.I feel I have given it my best shot but can not seem to get through to my partner.I have tried writing and talking and even counseling.I realized before we began our relationship we both had problems.But for the life of me and never did expect things to be so difficult with our relationship.It is so hard to walk away when you love someone but I just can not seem to get along or get on the same page.My partner wants to try counseling again.I just want to live in peace and let it all go.I do have a lot of issues an I am trying so hard to deal with them from dealing with my personal problems from depression and health issues to trying to handle my family and not let them get to me.I just do not feel I can take on anymore.Not sure if I step back things will get better with my partner or if I am better of being single and on my own.Maybe I am being selfish by walking away from my partner. I just am tired of arguing with my partner and feeling more and more depressed.I dont want to be alone but I also dont want to be miserable and sad all the time.Not sure whats going to happen.I guess only time will tell.Jerrie

deleted_user 05/17/2014

Sometimes if you feel you have done everything you have done then maybe taking a break for awhile to see if that will bring you closer.

drew4lostluv 05/17/2014

I agree walk away, give some space. If anything should happen out of it, it will

heyvee 05/17/2014

I agree I think a break will be best to reassess your priorities. Good luck; hugs.

lovemypreciousfamily 05/17/2014

Walk away if you don't think relationship is working if you staying a relationship that you wasn't happy that will hurt her more. If you care about someone you should tell the the truth.

sadiegirl13 05/17/2014

If you aren't able to be 100% committed to therapy, then it's not worth spending the time and money. You mat feel selfish because you want to walk away and your partner does not, but you have to do what's best for you and your family. It sounds like you know what you want to do, but don't want to hurt your partner. Unfortunately, this is how things go sometimes, and you have to be in it for you, not for the other person. Good luck, lots of hugs.

dsb188 05/17/2014

Here is the thing my therapist told me and I continue to share it with others:

Sometimes we have to make decisions for ourselves that make other people uncomfortable but are the best choices for our own mental health.

I feel like if you have given it your all and you are having a tough go of it than you have to let it go. I did the therapy thing with my partner and i realized that he was not for me and I couldn't take him. After being away from him I realized that it was the best decision I ever made in my life. Sometimes you have to wash your hands of a situation. It has nothing to do with giving up it has more to do with making sure you are okay.

Good Luck

wolfdreamer2013 05/18/2014

Thank you to all for the reponses.After finally getting a lil sleep the next day my partner and I talked we both realized we are not communicating very well.And spend to much time on the internet.We need to spend more time with eachother.I did feel like it was over between us at the time I first posted. But realize if you truelly love someone you might need to back off but do not just severe the connection unless it is causing you harm.Neither my partner nor I are causing eachother harm just emotional hurt which needs to be worked out through us communicating and go to therapy.We are in the porcess of moving I am hoping and praying I have made the right decison.But only time will tell.Take care.Hugss.Jerrie

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