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Feeling. sad

sweethomemi
sweethomemi

I just found out today that my cousin got engaged yesterday...while I'm very happy for her I'm sad for me.  She is also expecting a baby boy in February.  While this baby wasn't planned, it's going to be so nice for her.  I just feel so alone because we are the same age and I'm nowhere near having kids or being in a relationship...besides having depression and anxiety, as well as BPD.  Does anyone have any advice?



 

Restful
Restful
Take care of yourself and everything will come in time.
Moondreamer1988
Moondreamer1988
I feel like you are literally describing my life! My cousin just got engaged in the Bahamas, and although I am really happy for her, it kind of made me sad. My only advice I can give is what I try to tell myself every day: Continue trying to better your self and your life and eventually everything will fall into place. It's so hard watching everyone around you moving on in life when it feels like you're stuck in the same place. I truly believe that everything happens for a reason and our time will come!! Message me if you ever want to talk/vent. I also have anxiety/depression/BPD.

-C
Community LeaderWanderingVet
WanderingVet
depression and anxiety, as well as BPD are all known to be treatable. There are millions with these problems ... and more everyday. Personally, I would not want to be a parent if my mental health wasn't well managed.

I think you should seek treatment for yourself. Can't hurt.
OlderCPer
OlderCPer
I know its hard and not probably what you want to hear....but don't rush it. Wait until you get your mental issues stable and you can handle having a child. Because I can tell you from 28 years of BiPolar and raising a 27 yr old son and a 18 yr old son, through that and many other medical illnesses, it was not easy, ever. I did plenty of things I regret and would have done way different. I never hurt my boys but I worried them plenty and embarrassed them more than need be. My last severe suicidal depression crash my oldest son had to walk me into the Psych Ward at UNC Hospital and check me in. He had to come see me everyday to see if I was better, and he finally had to come see me every other day after ECT to see if I was physically okay and sit with me while I felt like crap. Then he got to take me to the Hospital Out Patient for ECT 3 times a week for 2 months. Pretty crappy job for a 19 yr old.

Having kids, being married and managing mental illness is a rough job, so until you get to a point where you can manage your mental illness to a point of stability the majority of the time, I'd hold off on having kids, because they take a ton of energy and patience, and just time...you can't turn them off or away if you need a break for a while....

Take care,
alicia101
alicia101
Hey