Depression Support Group

Depression is a real and debilitating condition that is often misunderstood by family and friends. Its meaning can range from a prolonged period of sadness to an actual mental illness with specific symptoms. Find and share experiences with others who are going through the same struggles.

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Jenny179 11/19/2019

I feel like a burden to my husband for having depression and all the mood swings that come along with that (taking out my frustration on him by yelling, crying, anxiety, etc.) I know that he wouldn't have to deal with this level of instability in his life if I wasn't his wife. I told him before we got married that I struggle with these things, but I don't think you really understand until you live with someone. I'm scared to have kids with him one day because I don't want them to have to grow up with a depressed mom. Constantly feel inferior and not good enough for him, even though he tries to tell me otherwise.

Does anyone else feel this way? What do you do to stop feeling guilty and like you're burdening the people in your life?

Kingsolomon66 11/19/2019

Depression is a nasty thing that tries and convince you that those who can help, those who can love, would be better if without. When really your husband should be your strength. He didn't marry you for your depression (meant kindly), remember the things he did marry you for, remember the things you married him for. A marriage is both of you that can fight this together.

Jenny179 11/19/2019

Thank you that makes me feel so much better. I really appreciate your kindness and support!

Scaredandafraid 11/20/2019

Are you on any medications or seeing a therapist? Foote me medication has been a game changer and i have been able to move ahead of my depression with leaps and bounds

Jenny179 11/20/2019

I was on medication in the past and it helped but it made me feel kind of numb. I didn’t have the lows but I also kind of felt like it numbed my happiness too. Now that I’m off it I’m able to experience a bigger range of emotions. I’m trying EMDR therapy right now so I want to see if that works first before I consider going back to meds.

Scaredandafraid 11/20/2019

If you go back try a different one. My first one made me numb but my latest doesn't alter me at all

Jenny179 11/20/2019

Thank you very much that gives me some hope! :)

Avidreader9559 11/21/2019

I agree with a PP. There are reasons that your husband married you. Think about those things instead of repeating to yourself why you think he shouldn't have. I am so glad that you are in therapy and open to taking meds if they are needed for your situation. Would it be possible for you to go to counseling together so you could learn how to accept his help for you and he can learn more ways to support you when you are down? Sometimes it is a matter of learning to think about things differently so that things can get better. I hope you find a way to accept your husband's help without feeling like you are a burden. Hugs!

Bluebird20 11/21/2019

I admire the fact that you were honest with your husband. I agree with the others to perhaps look at the good.

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