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Feeling defeated.

Perpetually_depressed
Perpetually_depressed

I've struggled with depression for as long as I can remember and have never reached out to a support group before so here I am in my last plea hoping to find others like me. Someone who could understand what I'm feeling. Just to understand me.. I've had my lows and lowers. My roller coaster of emotions. My small glimmers of hope and moments of fleeting happiness. But mostly my constant misery and despair. Right now I'm feeling defeated. Reflecting on my life, my depression has taken away my opportunities, friendships, destroyed relationships and isolated me from everything I've ever enjoyed. I've been off medication for over a year due to not having insurance anymore and what I'm feeling won't resolve on it's own. I feel so alone. Isolated. Trapped. I'm watching all of my old friends move forward their lives, going to graduate school, medical school, dental school, having successful careers and I am stuck. Not moving forward, only stepping back it feels. I try and try but can never catch a break. I stopped counting all the jobs I've applied for and never received a call back for. I tried to further my education and applied to a graduate program. The admissions advisor made me so hopeful, so happy about this potential prospect. I was almost confident I would have a spot in the program, just to get rejected. I'm in the process of applying to more, but I've accepted defeat. I've accepted that I will never lead the life I want. I'll never have the degree I want, the career I want or anything that could make me proud. I've thought about ways to kill myself. The easiest, most painless way to end my miserable existence. An end to this meaningless life I call mine. I want out. I need out. 

Restful
Restful
First off, I understand how you’re feeling because depression has taken away many opportunities and relationships for me as well. Also, is there any way you can apply for government assistance like Medicaid do you can start getting counseling and meds? Those two things are key to keeping me stable and allowing me to move forward in life.
Meat
Meat
You are not alone here. Don't be ashamed to talk to others, there are many here who know this condition, including me. Talk about it with someone. If you have no one to talk to, just drop me a few lines.
johnnyboy1960
johnnyboy1960
I'm probably a lot older then you... and I can tell you my life didn't turn out the way I thought it would not at all. I showed so much promise when I was younger. But it all went to he'll bad choices, trusting the wrong people and so on ruined me. But I will tell you as a suicide survivor that this is not the way to go out. You have to fight the good fight no matter what. I may not have much of a life myself but what I do have I'm willing to fight for now. I hope you will too. God Bless johnnyboy
Perpetually_depressed
Perpetually_depressed
Thank you all. Your support means a lot to me
Onlythelonely
Onlythelonely
Perpetually_depressed, I also have suffered with depression and probably will battle it all my life. It seems like some people/families have more of a tendency toward it. Four men in my Mom's family have committed suicide, including my Mom's Dad when she was 9 years old. I don't fully understand why it seems to run in families, but being aware of it motivated me to do what I could to fight it and not give in to it. As I was reading your post I couldn't help seeing how many negative words you use to describe yourself and your situations. I have read so many self help books over the past 15 years and I have learned how important it is to not think that way. Rethink How You Think by Dr. David Stoop and The Lies We Believe by Dr. Chris Thirmin are excellent books on this topic. It's not positive thinking magic - it really explains how our thoughts end up defining our lives. I tell you this to encourage you that even though you have had some hard times, there is light at the end of the tunnel. And suicide is not the answer. There are always options. I know when you are depressed it's hard to see that, but it is true. Have you considered a support group or a mentor - someone who can help you see what you are missing. Sometimes we get so caught up in our situations that we can't see another option. Praying that you are able to heal and find hope and wholeness.
ShaneG
ShaneG
Please try to find a way to get back on your meds. My doc told me of an app called GoodRX that can find you the cheapest place for meds. I came off Prozac twice in my life and both times I suffered. I'm suffering right now because I stupidly came off them in March 2017. I understand losing so much because of this illness. I lose a wonderful woman and a good life because my depression/anxiety ruled my life. Take heart and know this illness can be controlled. I promise you WILL have better days and great things will come your way my friend! Depression lies to us. It's lying to me right now. It tells us all is lose and that we should have no hope...BULLCRAP! Don't listen to that devil. We are going to fight this illness together and we will WIN! I promise :)
ElenaM
ElenaM
I can totally relate. In my case, I dis well for a long time, got the degree, career, marriage...but now it’s all starting to fall apart. Like I never deserved it in the first place, I was doomed to fail. I know it’s just the depression talking but the reality of it just sucks.
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