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Hi,
I just needed to post and vent here. I am feeling a bit bad as it's been a stressful week. It gets hard to process everything and that makes it overwhelming.
I had a car accident on Saturday, with some minor injuries, so I feel slowed down.
On Thursday, I had quite a run-in with the person I was dating. Kind of an argument. To make a long story short, he wanted a commitment after three dates and I was not ready. I was clear and honest with him and told him that I was not ready, and was starting to feel pressured, and to panic. I told him that I did in fact like him and care for him, but that I was at a different pace. The following day, he went to my home when I got off of work, and did not tell me he was coming. That brought out a huge explosion of emotion in me. Luckily I was able to control my temper, but I was furious and cried a lot. I had previously told him that I wanted to date and not hang out at my house, watch movies and just have sex. I told him "I want to actually date-not hang around the house." This is even more why I was mad that he just showed up.
I was so disappointed. We had just been down to the costume shop for halloween-our third date. He wanted me to spend a lot of money buying two costumes instead of one- for an event in May!! It's only Sept/Oct. I don't know if all of these details are necessary, but they are to me, I guess.
I cried like mad after I hung up with him, and explained that I tried to tell him where I was at, but that he ignored what I was saying. This morning I had a dream that I was crushing the flowers that he gave to me (I did throw them away IRL) and screaming, "You didn't listen to me. I take after my father-I'm independent and have a temper. I told you who I was. I warned you of who I was! And you ignored that fact!" I hate having dreams like that, especially the flower crushing.
It all boils down to that I felt cornered and panicked because he was going at light speed. Oh that is him right now.
I just needed to post and vent here. I am feeling a bit bad as it's been a stressful week. It gets hard to process everything and that makes it overwhelming.
I had a car accident on Saturday, with some minor injuries, so I feel slowed down.
On Thursday, I had quite a run-in with the person I was dating. Kind of an argument. To make a long story short, he wanted a commitment after three dates and I was not ready. I was clear and honest with him and told him that I was not ready, and was starting to feel pressured, and to panic. I told him that I did in fact like him and care for him, but that I was at a different pace. The following day, he went to my home when I got off of work, and did not tell me he was coming. That brought out a huge explosion of emotion in me. Luckily I was able to control my temper, but I was furious and cried a lot. I had previously told him that I wanted to date and not hang out at my house, watch movies and just have sex. I told him "I want to actually date-not hang around the house." This is even more why I was mad that he just showed up.
I was so disappointed. We had just been down to the costume shop for halloween-our third date. He wanted me to spend a lot of money buying two costumes instead of one- for an event in May!! It's only Sept/Oct. I don't know if all of these details are necessary, but they are to me, I guess.
I cried like mad after I hung up with him, and explained that I tried to tell him where I was at, but that he ignored what I was saying. This morning I had a dream that I was crushing the flowers that he gave to me (I did throw them away IRL) and screaming, "You didn't listen to me. I take after my father-I'm independent and have a temper. I told you who I was. I warned you of who I was! And you ignored that fact!" I hate having dreams like that, especially the flower crushing.
It all boils down to that I felt cornered and panicked because he was going at light speed. Oh that is him right now.
mystie
you have every right to not be pressured into a relationship. Sounds like he is moving too quickly on things with only having a few dates..that would scare me too. I wish I knew what to tell you to do. You might have to step back a bit and make it clear that he isn't to cross your boundaries such as just showing up at your place.
muskrattiger
I think that first he is not respecting you in accepting you the way you are and in what you want and in how your feeling are .......if he can't respect you after 3dates what do you think he will be like after a month ........I think your being upset as you were and are is perfictualy acceptable and I would feel the same and you are just going to be feeling worse if you don't take control of the situation now you don't need some one in your life especualy now but at eney time who does not respect you .........you need to look after your self right now not have to deal with a over growen disrespectfull child .......and there is always the potential that these kind of peple become posive. And that is an even bigger problem ......your mind is telling you somthing if he I sent helping he is part of the problem .....my self I would be afraid of him..........mysti has some good advice to
orion888
Yeah right in the middle of my writing this he texted me yet again saying he was ready to talk, when were we going to talk, that he saw my post on FB about the accident and that we should meet in person. The last time I talked to him we left it that I would call him. Of course, I never got to do that because he got in contact with me, again! I finally just removed him from my fb account and wrote back in all caps IM OUT MOVE ON
muskrattiger
Just text him back you are not interested in him and for him to stop texting you .........and if he texts you back just don't text him back but keep his texts just in case you might need them for later on I am not saying you will but better safe than sorrie ........just engnor him after that ........he is way to pushes somthing wrong there .....take care ....god pluss I will keep you in my prayers ......god bless.
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