sounds like a bunch of crap for me also. They just dont understand. Easier said than done!

i guess it depends on ur definition of "making it"

I have faked being happy or dealing with my divorce for 2 years. I even gave someone else a chance, let my walls down, and I get trampled on again. It's not like I wasn't upfront right from the beginning. Said it could be handled, yet it's not. Heartbroken again. I can't fake it and I am NOT making it really well today.

im divorced also. It takes some time before all that stuff goes away. Sometimes its better not to fake it but to just feel what your feeling until its ready to change. do you know what i mean?

I do. I tried another relationship, however my divorced is not all complete. While I am legally divorced we have been living like roomates for 2 years, have to sell the house and next year for a court date for assets and then prob another court date much later for child custody. I live in a fog. Now that relationship has gone south too....I should have listened to my gut just like I knew when my ex was cheating on me. I tried again, let my walls down and it just hurts. I have been crying and my eyes are so swollen....it sucks.

i went through a lot of the same. lived like roomates for about a year and almost killed each other. Dont leave though cause they can get you for abandonement. too soon for a realtionship so dont waste your time and emotions. Just feel what your feeling so you can get through and move on. Its the only way!!!!

I feel not much for him and I figured why should I sit and do nothing going on 3 years. I gave it a shot. I give up.

you did your best. sometimes things just dont work. wish i can help. send me a pm if you need to talk more. Hang in there it gets better, i promise!!

Thanks James. I have been feeling like shit for so long that I don't know what good feels like anymore. I am going to get my kids in bed...you have a good night.

I think I agree with what HoboFett said...Depends on your definition of "making it"...If I am at rock bottom, then I don't move anywhere in life...If I can find a way to tell myself things aren't as bad as they seem, then maybe I could pick myself up and keep moving forward (making it).

HUGS

Thats been my story for me entire exixtance........A whole 33 miserable years..........I'm really tired now! Can't fake it anymore! All my energy is GONE>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>!

I think it depends on the situation. Sorry to hear about the divorce and then being stuck living in the same house...that's gotta suck :(.

Sometimes I do this to myself and it actually works.

Not on huge things, though. I unfortunately trained myself to do this at a very young age (and then was literally trained to do it in WAY too many sales jobs LOL). So it comes very naturally.

Faking it to other people generally sucks.

Faking it to myself, on the other hand, sometimes drags me up out of a depression if I start doing it soon enough. For me, that includes things like not talking about how crappy I'm feeling, and instead talking about things that, while they're not making me happy, are things I know to be positive. Or it could be just distracting myself with something totally silly or stupid that I don't want to do because I'm so down, but which I know has the potential to put me in a better mood.

I hope that made sense...best wishes

Ialways bristle when i hear that phrase.."fake it til you make it"..it'sdefinitely coming from someone who has no clue what it feels like to be dpressed..it's almost offensive to me..we do "pull" ourselves up daily..some just don't get how much that requires some days..I would concentrate of just taking care of you right now..I think it's more like you gotta keep on keepin on...but some days you can't! give yourself credit for the days you do "get through"..you'll get there..hope you feel better soon..you don't Always need to put on a "face" for others..if you put "it" on ,do it for you:)

I force myself......and its tiring !!!!!! hugs

I force myself too. Sometimes it does help to "act as if..." Or "fake it to you make it.." However, it is not easy. And really...all we are doing when we fake it..is living in reality..just doing what we have to do to survive (i.e. working even though we feel like crawling in a ball, because we have to provide for our children). Depression sucks. We have no choice though than to carry on. We do have good days though...or we wouldn't keep going. We do..and we should..cause it has to get better. It will. It will!! I am in a funk myself. I wish I had someone in my life. The man that I am dating now...is a great guy, but has his own issues with anxiety and depression..and kind of isolates himself. He reaches out..but not all of the time (like my previous boyfriend). I wish he was more attentive. So..I am in my funk now. Ergh. It's good to have people to talk to.
We had an earthquake today. My ex would've called me to see if I was okay or whatever. This new guy...didn't hear a peep from him. When I reached out to him...he was like "everything is fine..that was cool." I would like to be babied sometimes..or taken care of. Sorry..I am just rambling. I will get over this. But I feel your pain. We just want to be loved...I try not to let my guard down, which is not always good.