If the bf is feeling psychologically abused, you need to look at how your interactions are working out together, because unless it's your intended aim I imagine you would like to avoid doing it. He may be feeling it without you intending it, so talking it through and finding out what is making him feel abused is a good idea.

You say you have been extremely depressed for a long time. Do you know what set it off? Have you seen a counsellor, or been on any medication? There are definitely things you can do about depression, although they can often feel very challenging when you're depressed. Sort of a catch 22 really. :)

you might find that he is on his way out of the relationship....if I felt emotionally abused I would want it to end and look for first excuse to end it....you gotta know that his saying those words means he is really upset by your behavior which is bothering him...you need to explore what that is...maybe you havent said things he wants to hear like yes I will go to dinner or yes I love you or whatever...I cannot judge why he said it but it is important enough that someone would seek to end such relationship pretty easily....if he leaves what does that leave you with today?

Would he consider going to therapy with you?

Would you tolerate it if the roles were reversed? Hell, no!

Some Men who are in a bad relationship don't wanna reach out for help for fear of being branded 'Wusses'. Man's World? Yeah, right! Perhaps at the top it is, but underneath a lot of guys are suffering.

Not trying to be judgmental, just trying to set the record straight.