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The lawyer suggests we try to have the house ready in 3 months. My brother refuses to help clean, saying he is not good at that kind of stuff. I am exhausted. I can only manage 2 hours at a time. There is no AC and it is hot in there. Ever since my diagnosis of diabetes, I get ill in the heat. Once I start to overheat....I get dizzy. So without assistance, I am sorting....there are things getting thrown away, things I am donating, things I am taking home, things I am sending to my brother's house. And the rest is getting picked up by an auction service. My brother keeps suggesting I put some stuff on eBay...and reminding me I have an account and he doesn't. It's not gonna happen. Screw him. He is just going on with his life, and I once again am on overload. My own life is suffering. The woman did not throw anything away. I have box upon box of papers I am dragging home and going through. I am going to be shredding this stuff for months! I am still the one writing the checks to keep the house going for now. My brother cannot even manage to complete some forms on time. I remind him over and over. Mom's toilet is leaking through the ceiling and Jim's friend is fixing it tomorrow morning. First off....i have to let him in, and write him a check. I asked Jim what to pay him, he said he would call me. When?? I should not have to chase Jim around for an answer. I told Jim that I have seven bags of trash to drag out for this weeks garbage pick up. Well guess what. I'm not doing it. He needs to do it. He could manage that one thing.....or I will stop speaking to him. And on top of it all....I am no longer able to sleep. Living on anxiety meds
Stuck
Gentle hugs
He is a nice man. He loves animals and kids and would help his friends out in a heartbeat. So I do not know what is going on here.
When he finally did call last night I was in the middle of a crying spell. He did agree to go over and drag out the garbage but when i told him how difficult it was with me only doing the cleaning out..he told me to take a break. That would actually be funny if I was not so tired and angry.
But thanks for listening guys and gals. It makes me feel not so alone
Your brother reminds me a little of mine, he was the executor of my moms estate, not that she had much, but I could not make any of the decisions and her wishes were not followed. Also if she had any kind of life insurance, he did not tell me and he tried to talk me out of my share of her car to give to his wife's brother. That after he sent his wife to help me go through my moms things, and she tried to claim everything from jewelry to her fine china, things my mom had tried to have me take while she was alive. She took things for her sister, and my brother sided with her, as opposed to allowing the man who lived with her to have even the chair he sat in every night. Because he, like me, we were in mourning. And at that time you are not concerned with objects. So said he didn't want anything. A day or so later came back and said, actually I would like to have the chair I usually sit in. And sister-in-law and brother would not give it to him. My heart was broken over this, well my heart has been broken 1000 times over, at the man he became, influenced by the $$ and devil in his wifes eyes. Harsh, yes. True. YES.
Anyway. back to you. sorry. I think you need to get someone to help you and pay them. Get an agreement signed by your brother that this and all other expenses are coming out of the sale of the house. I think since he is not doing his part, you should be also, counting your hours and charging those to the sale of the house.
Get him to sign this asap.
He needs to step up to the plate and do his part!
I don'T have anything wise to say but I wanted to show my support. hugs
GBU
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