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IamStillHere
IamStillHere

ok, so i've had a good couple of days where i've been feeling ok, but now it is back. I'm so tired and i can't do anything. I don't know if it's a stupid thing to think, but someone that i know keeps using the phrase 'thats so depressing' or 'i'm feeling depressed right now.' i know she may actually be feeling like that and i'd try to support her if she did, but it's always about things like having no wifi or having 11 months till it's her birthday again. I don't think she really means it, and i feel bad for saying this but it makes me quite angry really that people use menta ilnesses as adjectives. Am i being stupid? I don't know. But it's kind of like a trigger in away. When i'm out i try to forget about it as much as possible, but it's really hard when someone keeps saying the word. I don't know what to say, without telling her i have depression or coming off as mean. i would like her to stop, but i don't know how to say it.

Restful
Restful
Yeah, I’ve felt the same way before about people using that word just to describe a regular everyday feeling of mild sadness or something. Most of those people are clueless what the true illness is like so it’s hard for them to empathize. If you feel comfortable enough with that person, you can just say you are kind of uncomfortable with that word because it means something very serious to you.
pam4him
pam4him
It can be hard for someone who has a diagnosis to hear the term being used so loosely. Perhaps you could ask her when she was diagnosed, or what her treatment plan is. If she doesn't have either, maybe mention that those with a true diagnosis might feel offended. That way you don't have to say anything about yours. If it doesn't stop, it may become necessary to explain how it makes you feel. If it still continues, it may be necessary to limit interaction with this person. Prayers for peaceful resolution.
Lauradlou
Lauradlou
I am sorry about your situation. I think if it is really bothering you, you should mention it to your friend. In a kind and gentle way. Express your thoughts and feelings. I pray that the conversation goes smoothly and that the situation can be resolved.
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