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Depression is a real and debilitating condition that is often misunderstood by family and friends. Its meaning can range from a prolonged period of sadness to an actual mental illness with specific symptoms. Find and share experiences with others who are going through the same struggles.

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Anna1212 08/02/2017

I find that it's hard to be a misfit. People that don't fit in or who are isolated and alone have a difficult time of it. i feel that's been the case for me. i was watching marilyn monroe videos and dian fossey.. i realized that maybe it's because i feel an affinity wtih both of them and maybe that's because they were both misfits in a way...

dian fossey was sooo amazing, living with the mountain gorillas, caring so damn much about them, loving them.. you can see it in her face, it's heart breaking in a good way to see that bond she has with them and then it ending in such cruelty and tragedy.

and then marilyn monroe of course being so depressed. i heard a quote from her once she said something like," my life has been one long nightmare" .. i can so understand that feeling and i think it was even worse for her. i read her mother tried to kill her when she was 2 years old. someone in my family actually met her and he said that she was extremely anxious and unhappy. she didn't have a family of her own. most people "liked" her for the superficial reasons.

do you think depression is a lot about not fitting into society or a family? I know it isn't all that but. wow, that doesn't help. i've always been an outsider. my whole damn life. scape goat too. sucks. hurts.

but just because you are a misfit doesn't mean you can't be exceptional as these two examples above prove. so maybe that's something to think of. just because you don't fit in or everyone thinks you are crazy or weird or your own family treats you like garbage and doesn't understand you appreciate you... doesn't mean they are right. you may just be a totally amazing person. you may just be a totally amazing person.

i'm rambling. heat getting to me. need nap.

ThePepperMan 08/02/2017

I have an interesting belief about people. Take any two people at random (OK, perhaps the same approx age and speaking the same language!); with enough time and energy they could end up in one of two places:

1) They could find a long list of reasons to hate the other person.

2) They could find interesting things about the other person and enjoy their company talking about their differences and similarities.

I never actively went after option 1, but most of my regrets in life stem from not actively going after option 2.

You are amazing, and I know that there are interesting things about everybody here that I could have fun getting to know.

Anna1212 08/02/2017

I kind of feel stupid about posting what I did because even if you are "amazing" "gifted" or whatever you can still have horrible depression/mental problems. and you can whether you have a good social network or not. and even if you know you are amazing it doesn't necessarily make you feel better. what I wrote made no sense really. I was just watching some videos and I realized that dian and Marilyn were both sort of misfits, that that's what they seemed to have in common and maybe that's why i was drawn to their stories. I feel like an idiot. I really like dian fossey though. I think she was totally amazing and her works with the gorillas makes me cry it's so beautiful. i always turn to animals when i feel bad. they never think you are stupid or weird or whatever. they don't judge. i think i belong living with a group of animals like dian did. whenever i am around people i feel like a pile of shit. constantly judged or ignored or worse.

ThePepperMan 08/02/2017

Can you change the people you are around? Sounds like they get too much fun from dragging others down.

getbacktoserenity 08/02/2017

Traits of empathy, kindness, and general goodness speak louder than any social definition of misfit or outsider, etc. Judge people on their overall character, not how they choose to present themselves to the world.

Anna1212 08/04/2017

you're right I am around people who bring me down. it's not easy to change my situation right now but I would like to. I like the comment about empathy, etc. being more important than fitting in. I do believe that too.

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