Depression Support Group
Depression is a real and debilitating condition that is often misunderstood by family and friends. Its meaning can range from a prolonged period of sadness to an actual mental illness with specific symptoms. Find and share experiences with others who are going through the same struggles.
Hello! I'm new here.
I have had Major Depressive Disorder for about 9 years
but recently I've been obsessing about the (potential) death of my dog.
I recently found out he was a senior when I took him to the groomer (he's 7 years old) and ever since then I research how to make his life last long. I am terrified he is going to die soon (when I say soon I mean die EVER). This dog is all I live for and I wonder what I will do when he's gone. I get SUPER morbid thoughts about how I will handle his remains and spend a lot of time researching things that may potentially make him healthier and live longer (e.g. the other night I read about bloat and now refuse to play with him until 2 hours after he has eaten).
Do any of you find yourself obsessing about the morbid things in life? How do you help yourself not to obsess?
I have had Major Depressive Disorder for about 9 years
but recently I've been obsessing about the (potential) death of my dog.
I recently found out he was a senior when I took him to the groomer (he's 7 years old) and ever since then I research how to make his life last long. I am terrified he is going to die soon (when I say soon I mean die EVER). This dog is all I live for and I wonder what I will do when he's gone. I get SUPER morbid thoughts about how I will handle his remains and spend a lot of time researching things that may potentially make him healthier and live longer (e.g. the other night I read about bloat and now refuse to play with him until 2 hours after he has eaten).
Do any of you find yourself obsessing about the morbid things in life? How do you help yourself not to obsess?
You may be in existential anxiety mode where time seems to go a lot faster than it actually does. The cure lies in grounding in the Now, because the Now is the only thing that is real, and that's where your power is.
You cannot unfocus from negative thoughts, but you can change your focus to something that is more pleasant and soothing than what you're feeling now.
That is actually a really good explanation that "time seems to go a lot faster than it actually is"
In reality he isn't super old yet...but you are right about time seeming to go by faster because I think like that about a lot of things...
So with your advice to what the cure is...Everytime I start obsessing about this I will go play with my dog or pet him :) enjoy the now. :)
I'm 61 right now, and have had many wonderful dogs in my life. None of them were the same other than they had 4 legs, were covered in fur, and have no qualms about eating and rolling in anything that they find on the ground.
I have enjoyed each one of my dogs, and let them make as many decisions in how we interact as I can. (I draw several lines, such as they can't lick my face, eat from the table, etc)
I think that you are going to be a really good dog owner over the course of your life!
Gentle hugs