Awww, I am so sorry to hear about your loss hun, you have my deepest sympathies. I don't know what its like to loose a husband, but I know what its like to loose my parents, and all I can say is it is tough. This is a time that you have to grieve and go through your feelings.

Eventually, over time, you will feel better. You are lucky to have your kids to help you get through it, they give you life great purpose, and I know that they love you. :) Many huggs sweetheart, feel better soon.

Ashley

I'm finding it hard as I have to put a brave face on for the girls and keep them into a routine. I haven't began to talk properly about it and I don't know how. All I do I work and then have the girls. Not sure where to find the time to start talking about it all. My mood over the last couple of days has gotten worse and my family don't know how to react to me.

I am so sorry for your loss. I know there are grief support groups that might be able to help. You can talk to us. Gentle hugs.

I am so very sorry, I know this is so hard. In time, things will seem a bit better for you, and you will find your life back again. I know it seems like it is unbearable now, but you have your children to keep you busy and give you that will to keep going.

Hugs and much love,
Kasandra

I have had to mourn the loss of family but never a spouse. I can only imagine the pain you are in today. You just have to go through the grief process until it goes away. Do you know the 5 stages?

denial
anger
bargaining
acceptance

Anyone know the other one?

I think its depression then acceptance

Hi,
I've heard of the 5 steps.
Would like to know if anyone can recommend a herbal remedy for depression as I can't take anti depressants.
Thank you all for your support, I appreciate it a lot.

Hugs x

st.johns wort is said to help some people for mild depression.make sure you are taking a multivitamin especially if you not eating well at the moment .take care of yourself ,sounds obvious but take time to have a long relaxing bath ,read a good book (if you can concentrate ).just be extra good to yourself at this time .listen to some favourite music .sorry for your loss .as you have to keep brave face on for the girls try to have these private moments for yourself.

I've talked to a lot of people about the stages of grief, and have come to one conclusion:

There is no real set order to them. We can move back and forth between the stages. For example we may be doing OK on the acceptance, then something new hits us and we are back being angry.

I googled this, and got some hits that talk about 5 stages, and some talk about 7 stages. The differences seem to be a bit of bundling stages differently and the addition of Guilt, upward changes and reconstruction.

There is no way that your 3 and 6 year olds can process the emotions you are feeling, so you will need to find other places to do this. You can tell your children that each of you will react differently, and STRESS to your children that they are not responsible for making you feel better, but it is your job to help them feel better.

Gentle hugs

I am sorry for your loss. There were three or four deaths that i have had to deal with within the past year frame and all i can tell you is if you havent joined a bereavement group in your area then i strongly recommend it because I feel its going to hit you hard and I dont mean to scare or alarm you but i went through that denial phase and being angry for a period of time and feeling like i didnt do enough and it just began to exhaust me. Your friends and family will always be there for you but sometimes we need people who were not attached to the situation themselves to give us a more positive direction because they are not having to deal with the same specific grief. I just know it can get extremely hard to deal with and if you had the group they may be able to guide you toward a more peaceful grieving process if there is such a thing :-). Many Hugs and take care.