Do you receive child support for your son? If not, I would pursue getting current and back child support.

If you are a teacher, you are off the for summer months. A part time summer job perhaps?


I cringe at the thought of rushing into a marriage for financial reasons only. Sounds like a recipe for disaster.

I'm sorry you're struggling right now, sweetie. Please know that you're not alone. I understand how you feel about the stress of not having enough financially, because I'm in that boat with you. Depression can certainly make a difficult situation like that feel hopeless, but it's not as hopeless as it seems. We're both going to survive. Please, don't feel as though you need to rush into a relationship or marraige for financial reasons. Take everything one minute, one day, one step at a time. I strongly urge you to see a doctor for your depression, and maybe seek help in therapy as well. I have two children also, and my daughter is 15 just like your son. The first step is to just get out of bed and do it... and I understand how difficult that seems. If you'd like to chat, feel free to message me. I'm certainly no professional, but I'm here and I'll help you the best that I'm able.

you MUST get out of bed. Yes ... see a Doctor.

I am in bed most of the time too. My 20 year old who still lives at home has lived with this his whole life. But he knows I love him and that I do the best I can. Hugs and yes please do get help.

Thank you all for your very kind and helpful responses. I actually do have a psychiatrist and I guess I'm so inactive that the medicine just doesn't work. It gives me hope for myself when I can get more love and support from a group of understanding friends that I just meet on a message board than I can my own family... Thank you all, and please message me anytime.

Hi Angel, are you taking the right meds for you? I was just curious because sometimes you may need a higher mg or simply another anti depressant that might work better. They do need to find the right ones that WILL work for you because everyone is different. The ex hubby should be doing his part with the finances whether he likes it or not; you deserve his help. I understand wanting to stay in bed a lot because I've been there before and it's no picnic. You want to get out and do stuff but you feel afraid. Please don't give up until you find meds that work for you. I am here if you just want a friend or whatever to chat with and I'm praying that things will improve for you and your son. My thoughts are with you along with so much love. In many cases family does not behave as they should in life, as I've been there as well. I know very well how you feel and just want you to know that you are not alone.

I'm so sorry for all that you have been through and are going through still.
You've experienced a break-up, you're raising a child alone, you're separated from your other child, you have a full-time job, and you feel the weight of financial responsibility. That is a lot on your plate!
No wonder you feel anxious about it all.
Do you think you might be grieving the loss of our spouse and marriage?

Does your son know about your depression? Maybe if he knew you where feeling so down he could help cheer you up. He doesn’t have to know about the finances or how bad things are but maybe if he knew you where sad he could make you smile. I’m a single father with a 16 yo son and have no financial help from his mom. He’s been with me since 3. I have similar money problems too and have really been hit hard with depression and anxiety. I think about telling him how I feel. Not everything as to not scare him or worry him but just to tell him that hey I’m a bit down in the dumps lately. Maybe his reaction will be that kick in the butt to jump start me again. Maybe it will bring him down in the dumps too, but I have a good relationship with him so I lean more towards him telling me what did you teach me all these years about fighting on through struggles.

@doncornelius: That's a great idea and I appreciate your response. He knows I'm depressed. We've talked about it some. I wish a conversation with him would be one that would give me a jump start, but sadly it won't be. Sometimes his responses just inundate me with guilt, which does not help with the depression. I wish I had the answers....

Can I just say that I LOVE your username! I just joined and that alone already gave me a good word. Unfortunately marriage may not solve everything but as a single parent I can empathize with your rationale. If you are not doing so already, try to find certain times daily where you have positive interactions with your son. Depression sure has a way of impacting the whole family. Hugs from afar.

There is a support group here for parents with mental illness. I think you will find what you need there. My tablet is down so I have not been in touch but will get caught up with you as soon as I can. Also if you really and truly are too overwhelmed to get out of bed and yes I totally get that. Sometimes it just really is that bad,, but at least do what I did with my son. Tell him he can come in and talk to you any time. That will put your mind as ease that he knows your door is always open to him and that he never really is alone.

I wish I could say that my story had a happy ending but the truth is Josh, my son, still feels neglected by his dad and me sometimes. He knows it's not intentional but it's something we are still dealing with. And it's hard too because my son has Aspergers (mild autism) so he does not have a lot of friends he can go and hang out with. His dad and I make up most of his social life. But we keep trying and we keep hoping for better days ahead. Hugs

yes we all support you my dear. I understand how it feels :)



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oh my god i understand you so much, i do the same, when your depressed your sleeping life is better then your real life. understand your money stress, im hurting also. but mine is going to improve soon, the marriage thing, if your picture is actually you, then you should have no trouble at all finding somebody that fits you. your really pretty, just need to advertise cant do that from bed, find a good dating site, invest time, say what your looking for and a good description of yourself, should be gone very fast, theres something about falling in love that makes me happy, sure im not alone in this. in fact being alone and lonely is one of the main reasons i get depressed. money is one thing, but handling all the responsibilities alone makes it much much worse , a pretty woman like you should never spend life alone.
Love, Annie