What do you think about before you fall asleep? I know it's easier said than done (very). But if you're just lying there thinking about bad stuff, it's more likely to show in your dreams. I know it sounds too simplistic to work, but try feeding your brain some happy before bed. Could be a funny movie, a magazine, a book, music, lighting a candle so things look nice and cozy, anything, really. Just shifting your mind away from the negative thoughts. Not a cure-all by any means, but can't hurt :)

I'm not sure if there's anything I can say that can help. Every once in a while I have scary and/or depressing dreams/nightmares and the biggest things that have helped me feel less freaked out by them are, time ... as the day goes on i usually start feeling better and trying to get my mind on something else, this can be difficult but it's worth a shot, distraction can be a pretty good tool.

As far as being shy, I understand that. I've gotten better over the years but don't have to be around people as much anymore... when i was in school and had to be around people it was pretty bad. Just remember, no one is unlovable and i'm more than sure you're no exception, also, everyone is going through or has gone through struggles in their lives that you'll never know about and many times others perspective is much different than we realize, especially when we're feeling especially bad about ourselves.

message me if you need to talk.

Hey sweetie. I don't really know what to say to help. You got a couple of good replies. You say you often have depressing dreams? May I ask if you see a therapist that you can discuss this with? I think you're pretty darn loveable!

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Thanks Summer wind, Irish whiskey and luvmytitans. I'm not too sure what I thought about before I went to sleep last night. I was playing online scrabble. Didn't think I was thinking depressing thoughts. Actually now that I am thinking about it I did. I suffer severe panic/anxiety. I had it as a young child but it went away until the breakup of my marriage. My panic came back with a vengeance that u didn't understand. Won't go into details. I went for therapy at the time and that helped me understand more . also it came out that my father and his mother suffered from it but it was called "bad nerves".

But to feel suicidal in my dreams? Never. I suffer severe self esteem but I thought I was building it back up. I am very happily married now and he is great about my anxiety.

My daughter sent me a text shortly after I woke up thus a.m. asking me how I was. It then came out that she had nightmares last night . she is 17 and was in hospital once for a few hours having a panic attack at a friends house and she passed out. She had one several years ago in the car and I called 911 as she passed out. Both times were determined that they were panic attacks.

Sorry got off the topic here. I think I'm going back for more therapy . these dreams remain vivid and I'm afraid what I might do/become if I keep letting it go. If it was just the odd time I think I could handle it. Right now I just feel unlovable and I don't want to get more depressed than I already am. I am on antidepressants. That has helped keep the panic to a more manageable level on day to day stuff.

I really appreciate your answers. Thanks so much. Even if you don't feel you can help just responding here helps so much!! I'm going to have to remember that.

i think you have to watch what kind of showes or movies you watch after supper ...............try to controll some of your thinking keep bisie with a craft ........being creative often will help ...............and you also have to watch the type of music you lisent to you will know it when you here it it will make you sad .............................get enough exersize through the day ..................i have very vivid dreams they are in sound and colour ..............so often i cant tell if i am awake or asleep untill somthing happenes that i just know i am sleeping ......................i wish you good luck with this .............you schould also tell your counclor about the dreaming ..............................god bless

Thanks muskrattiger. I agree about the movies/TV. I have to be careful on the books I read as that has definitely triggered depression. I have read alot of your answers to other posts and I value your advice