I had a similar unhealthy and unprofessional relationship that my therapist had with me. She shouldn't have broken the boundaries like that. I know you are attached but I don't think that therapist is really going to help you.

It is unprofessional to allow you to get so attached. I think you need to speak to hear about attachments and boundaries. And work out how you can continue.

I had a therapist for eight years and I got a bit attached although my therapist was totally professional, Sometimes when they are the first decent and genuine person you can be really honest with outside of marriage It's hard not to get attached and drawn to them.

I had a therapist who sounds very similar. Although she was lovely and genuine, her lack of boundaries created problems for me. I was definitely too dependent on her. I think she eventually realised this too and she supported me to find a physiatrist. I was so scared at first, but it ended up being the right thing for me (and probably the therapist too)! It's not healthy, so I do strongly advise you to 'wean yourself off'. Hope that's of some help :-)

I didn't have your problem exactly but I had an older male therapist and had to stop seeing him because I have father issues and men in authority over my emotional state is just something I cant handle.

I found a great therapist that I had for more than a year but she left the practice. I've found that younger males or females of any age are best for me because of my fear of my father's anger.

A therapist should be kind and understanding but not engage in using names like sweetie or baby or any physical contact. I understand why you miss it because you didn't have it as a young person. I'm close to your age so I can definitely understand your pain. My mother and I didn't always get along. My father used to be my best friend when I was a kid. Now the roles have reversed. It's very confusing even at my age because I still remember my father as my hero and best friend before he turned on me and I don't know why to this day.

He became sick with severe arthritis and I helped him with everything but then things changed and his anger, perhaps about his illness, turned on me.

Get a therapist with good boundaries - no touching - and no sweetie or baby or anything like that being said. You should change therapists. Maybe even try a younger therapist or a male therapist so it's less likely that you will get so attached.

I feel for you, truly I do. I wish you luck. Call your insurance provider or look on their website for a new therapist.

The therapist I used to see a few years ago had to retire because of age. I liked her but there were times I didn't like her because she was a mother who had a daughter who was my age. I felt at times that she was always judging me instead of helping me. Example one time I asked her a question and she did not give me a good reply and I had to set her straight. Her reply was that I kept repeating myself too much and not getting and not getting anywhere. I was offended by that and told her that when I saw her a week prior to our visit, I said that I was offended by what she said to me and I thought it was rude of her to say that to me. She apologized and never brought it up again.

thanks for all the feedback everyone. i dont know if i can just leave her i would cry for like ever... thats how much i am attatched. im so scared to talk to her because she even told me once she would cry if i stopped coming to see her. the pressure that puts on me is enormous. i couldnt imagine leaving her anyways. im in a tough spot.

I have to agree, it is unhealthy & unprofessional. I've had the same therapist for 3 years, a women, & not once has she crossed those boundaries. She took ill for two.. had to see her colleague, I was devastated, but thought I still have to continue. I think you should discuss some boundaries with her or ask for another referral. Hugs!

I think that sweetie business is a way to get themselves off the hook for doing their job. It appeals to our most base need to feel loved and cared for. Rather than helping you constructively with your issues, she's taking the short cut and making you feel good with her language.

While that can be nice to hear, I think its disrespectful between two adults in a therapeutic relationship.

But no one is perfect. Maybe work towards better boundaries. I think it could lead to an interesting conversation is you admitted how sucked in you were by that wording.....

It's not normal for a therapist to say she would cry if you left her. Honestly, and I don't mean this in a funny way, she herself sounds like she needs help. I know it will be tough but it is absolutely in your best interest to find a new therapist, much as it hurts. Find a new one first, tell the new one what is going on, and maybe the new one can help you detach. Schedule the current one out a few weeks, maybe two, after you find the new one so you can get help getting a new perspective.

only problem is i have no job currently and she is seeing me for free and i dont know any therapist who would see me for free. so maybe an idea once i get a new job?

What is her reason for seeing you for free? Is she in a low cost clinic or private practice? Perhaps seeking a low cost clinic for a few sessions might help.

You suggest to me that you are insecure, and likely because as you say your own mom is unavailable to you.

Your doctor can realistically only help you if you too are prepared to help yourself, and because you spend little time with her, helping yourself obviously is of the most importance of.

Bi-Polar is a wicked condition, and I know because I experience it also, albeit in only a mild form.

My advice to you is to simply be kind to yourself, always treat yourself with respect, and whatever you do don't get down on yourself when you make the odd mistake, because mistakes are designed to teach us valuable life lessons, and thus are healthy for us as opposed to unhealthy.

You are a beautiful young lady, so believe it of yourself when I say so because I never tell lies.