First and foremost you can't worry about what he thinks/feels right now because you have a tiny human being growing inside you! You need to be as stress free as possible. Doctor's still don't have all the answers to what causes miscarriages but stress can be a factor; That happened to me before.
Also anxiety isn't good either.

You've got to make sure you're going to all your appointments and take those prenatal vitamins! Eat healthy. I hate veggies but I knew my mini me needed that. Of course no smoking/drinking. You've got to remember everything that's going in your mouth is going in baby's too!

You're going to be just fine! Plus you have a supportive family!

your bf may just be in shock...he may come around in time and step up to the plate.

There's a book I spotted 'What to expect when you're expecting' - try a 2nd hand bookshop or a library. The web may also have a ton of info.

Being a single mom is practically a norm nowadays. All those other single moms are also struggling and afraid - mebbe there's a group on this site or you can start one?

Try to calm down, and even start enjoying this new adventure you're embarking on. Congratulations!
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I am so very sorry you are going through this. I think you are wise to get the support of your family; perhaps working with them to set some guidelines could make it easier for everybody. They will know what is expected of them, and can adjust things so that they can be there for the long run rather than burn out early and end up depressed and super stressed out.

I do hope that your bf comes to his senses. He really needs to man up right now; even if he does not support you emotionally and will not be there physically, he does owe you support $. The baby is half his.

How much time has he had to adjust to this news? Some of us guys need more time than others to react and act like an adult.

Gentle hugs

Congratulations on your baby! I agree, your BF sounds like he is in shock. You will never be alone! There are so many resources and support systems out there for single moms and for moms with babies who have dads that opt not to be very involved in day to day life. That said, if it's at all possible, reach out to your BF and let him know you are also shocked and surprised and scared because of this unplanned baby, but that you are excited to share the journey with him as you raise your daughter/son. if there are any other young dads that you know, now's the time to have them over for a 'we're pregnant' dinner party! Rally your supporters and celebrate this beautiful new life the two of you are sharing!

>>He tells me he's not ready to have a baby.

Yeah ... it pretty much takes 2 people ... at least.

I am kinda into the 'Family Unit' thing ... ever since that 'fell out of style' the whole culture has gone downhill. Nowadays .. couples can plan for a baby together. It should be a mutual decision.

Oh well, ... what the heck ... what's one more?

I disagree ... you do need to be concerned (worry?) about what he thinks/feels right now because he is the Father and he has legal rights. Legal rights that will effect you and the child and others for a LOOOOONG time.