Depression Support Group

Depression is a real and debilitating condition that is often misunderstood by family and friends. Its meaning can range from a prolonged period of sadness to an actual mental illness with specific symptoms. Find and share experiences with others who are going through the same struggles.

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Edger 07/05/2015

Feeling depressed. Have to deal with mom issue again on Monday. Lawyer is supposed to call me back then. With advice from lawyer, I have to decide if I'm going to do what mom wants me to do or not. Her problems may not be my problems but I cant completely let her deal on her own. She is physically frail. And her anxiety makes it hard for her to deal with life. Plus she is 89 years old. My husband said mom shouldn't have to deal with lawyers at her age. And she shouldn't have to deal with running a commercial property. Doesnt matter that the problems she has now are because of her poor decisions in the past. A few years ago he saw how cluttered mom's house was. I tol him it would be a battle to get it cleaned up. That it was this way when dad was alive. Dad complained about the mess and tried to get mom to throw away or give away stuff. She refused. Told husband dad didn't do anything about it. He says in an angry voice - it doesnt matter - he wouldn't let his mother live like this.

Barbara

ThePepperMan 07/06/2015

There is a show on cable where I live, I think it is simply called "Hoarders". They show real people who have hoarding issues, and the interventions that are attempted. You and your husband might want to watch a few, but be warned that they can be heart wrenching. This will give both of you a glimpse into just how deep this issue runs.

As for the legal issues, it sounds like you need to have your mom make a decision; either you take over the management of the legal problem and its outcome or she continues managing it. Given her problem dealing with hoarding, she may not be able to deal with the changes that will be required to resolve the legal issue.

What you can change is how you deal with these issues. But you are right, you can not really change how your mother deals with the issues.

survivor69 07/06/2015

MY MOM WILL B 89 THIS MONTH.
SHE IS IN A NURSING HOME.
SHE HAS SEVERE ALZHEIMERS.
I KNOW WHAT U R DEALING WITH.
MOM LIVES IN ANOTHER STATE UP NORTH.
MY BRO WATCHES OVER HER.
GBU
D
;-O

itsmoreorless 07/06/2015

I know how it feels to be depressed, at one point I tried killing myself twice in one week :( If you are stressed I would highly recommend everybody learn how to meditate because ever since I have started I have never been happier. I have improved my life drastically. I have an overall sense of peace with myself and the world. My stress levels have gone to an all time low and It even helps me with my anxiety and panic attacks.

.If you want to learn how to meditate I suggest you read this story.

http://anxiousreview.com/learnmeditation/

butterfly2012 07/06/2015

i dont believe in the word cant. You can do anything you put your mind to. I'm sorry you are going through the troubles you are and taking them on as your own. I know that has to be tough. I hope you are able to take your husbands advice though and have him step in to help with all the guidance he is giving you. :)

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