Hung in there, sorry to hear about your project, remember one door closes another one opens, wait patiently, I know it's not easy, I'm dealing with something strong like the possibility of loosing my job of 10 years, you will get through this, trust me, your family loves you, you'll find support here, it so helpful to express our problems.

Your "problem" is never insignificant. Every one has their fights, may be small to others but it's big to you. Never feel insignificant. At times it feels like it's a hurdle that you can't climb but you'll find a way and you will sail over. Lean on your wife, she's your crutch, through thick and thin. You got this!! Know your worth.

Thanks for all the support.

I am new here so I am not sure how do I quote someone. But I would like to shout out to the person who might lose his job after 10years that I understand how he feels. I am in my job for a few years and this mistake was nearly a career ending mistake

I would like to thank all the fellow replies in here as they really help to soothe my feelings just a tiny bit giving me a tiny weeny bit of confidence to even carry on with my job

Hey. I think that reading the thoughts folks have helps a bit but not much. Im sorry to hear of your disappointment. I can feel how upset you are. I am thinking you are a very good person. I cant explain why sudden random things happen to folks like this. I wish you good things.

I am back at feeling extremely lousy again. I want to run off from this place and never get back.

I cannot leave my job as I have a family to feed but I feel I cannot hold my head high up anymore. I am subconsciously thinking everyone looks down on me and that even I were to change a job this memory would be back to haunt me someday. I do not even dare to look at people around me in the eye.

I was feeling better after some consolation from people just now and it really did make me think I felt better. But now it has come back to haunt me again and I am back to feeling worthless again.

How can I get out of this

Hey DB. As someone who has worked on projects his whole career, I can tell you that I've learned more from making mistakes than having successes. As a manager, I can tell you this: go to your boss and project leader, own the mistake, recognize the impact it's had on both the project and co-workers, explain to them what you've learned and tell them you want the opportunity to prove yourself. Then, work your a$$ off!! Don't go AWOL, don't try to keep a low profile. Own it and move on. Don't keep apologizing. Rebuilding trust is difficult, but you will only get it back by improving the business relationships with others. Be visible!

And stop beating yourself up!! This mistake doesn't define you - your values define you. The fact that you are remorseful indicates that you are responsible and hold yourself accountable, and there will be many other values that you recognize. These are who you are!! Stay strong, be real with your wife and be that person at work.

There will be other opportunities and you'll be a better colleague for the lesson learned.

Thank you. Yes I did own up to my bosses immediately and I took full responsibility of the mistake.

In my mind I am screaming I want to run away so so badly but I am putting on a strong front in office that I am taking it in my stride.

I would like to do what you suggest and go back to the project but the damage to the morale is too high that my bosses feel its not right for me to get back on to the project

I am very sorry you are going through this. Nothing stinks more than being let go from something, especially when you know it was a small mistake. So, basically you have 2 options:

1. Quit and show your wife and kids that when the going gets tough, the best thing to do is to quit.

2. Tremendously excel at what you are doing now and show your wife and kids that you are a fighter, and when the going gets tough, the average guy quits...but not you. You push on.

I recommend #2. Do your best at whatever job you are given. Although it might be embarrassing to have to face your coworkers when everyone knows what happened, if you work hard at your new position, you show them and management that you own up to your mistakes, learn from them, and move on. That is the kind of husband a wife wants, a father kids want, a colleague coworkers want, and a team player management want. So, it's up to you. What are you going to choose?

Thank you for your kind words. Yes I am gonna press on and ezcel