Hello Lostanalone. I kinda understand your depressed feelings because I lost my husband in May last year. We were 1 month short of our 50th anniversary so when he moved on it felt as though the whole planet rocked so hard that the nuts and bolts of my life rattled till they fell off. Everything that could have gone wrong actually did, especially when my dear little dog drowned in the pool a month later. Both my sons live overseas and my daughter was settled with her own family far up country so I was utterly alone, miserable and afraid.

Like you, I never believed it was possible to experience such bitter lonliness and pointlessness in my life until then. One day dragged into the next for almost 7 months until I grew a pair of balls and did what some people said was pure madness - I released my daughter's inheritance from my husband's estate. i.e. my house, so that she could move in with me and start a new life here. It was pure karma that they were needing a home and a fresh start, so I truly believe that my hub was still guiding and protecting me from over the rainbow.

Although my grieving will never leave me, I am in a better place now and know that your feelings of hopelessness will dissolve into renewed hope if you allow them to.

Many blessings and toasty hugs.

It can feel that way when your grieving, it's a terrible loss, and sorry for your loss. 7 years ago I lost my two best friends within 3 months of each other, so I can empathize with your grief. But after a while, years actually, I feel they are always with me now. I see a rainbow and it's my one friend who always loved them, I run across a funny, on the dark side a bit joke, and I feel my other friend laughing right along with me. Your not alone, your here sharing, glad you are.

(((Lost)))

So sorry for your losses. Grieving is a process and it takes time for the overwhelming sense of loss to subside even a little. My word for myself this week is 'Resilient' (to rebound). After unpleasant news or tragedies..... Also pour out your heart to God in prayer…it can help calm you. Philippians 4:6,7

Thank you all. For your kind words I've lost people before most of my faimly are gone my bf passed away 5 months ago and my sister 3 months ago both suddenly it's been so hard with out them I miss them I try to take things a day at a time but it's not easy I can't get out of this depression I'm sorry for you losses as well

Hi- I'm so sorry to hear about your loss.
The pain of loss is overwhelming and we need to grieve for us to cope and heal. Grieving is painful but necessary and there is no timetable. Some people grieve for few months, some take years. When my mother passed away, it took me a year to grieve. I want to encourage you to cry when you feel lonely, it will help you to feel better.

I pray that you will have peace and strength as you go through this season. Update us please, we are here for you. take care and God bless.

Thank you elimom I do my best to keep myself busy and not really think about anything but thoughts come that I don't want to think about i know it takes time to heal but I haven't got to that point yet so I'm stuck in this saddness

embrace those thoughts that come at unexpected times, all part of grieving process, and just cry..and remember, all part of healing. every one has own way of grieving and length they grieve.. be kind to yourself... you will never forget but you learn to cope and move on with your life.. we all have our own life book with many chapters and acts on life's stage; some are valleys some are peaks.. loosing love ones is part of the valleys - you will have some happy moments and be at peace in time. and do not feel guilty, allow yourself those moments of peace.. does not mean u have forgotten any one..just coping and moving on.. so sorry for your loss...