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Lately I've been feeling a lot of pressure at home. I'm unemployed and I go to college but spend most of my time at home. My mother pays for my college although I've asked her to let me find a good job to pay for it myself. She refused and insisted on paying for it herself. I've been unemployed since march and have had a difficult time getting a job. While my mom makes the money, I stay home and take care of my four siblings. However lately she's made me feel as if my efforts aren't good enough for her. On top her emotional abuse, my siblings add onto it by treating me like crap. I feel completely hopeless and lately, I just want to give up.
If your mother feels your efforts aren't enough, maybe they aren't. Have the conversation. Talk about what her expectations are, and what expectations you have. Find out where the disconnect is. Find out what your powers of childcare are, and how to manage the children. Discuss it. Investigate. Explain the time requirements of college. Work out a system and keep in contact about how well it is working for you both.
You need to start having some conversations with your mother as to how to do what she wants at the same time as getting what you want. She's spending all this money on your education, she has no desire to undermine it - so have those honest conversations. have those courageous conversations. It's time to start learning how to handle interpersonal relationships in a forward-thinking, directed way. Adults seek out solutions and aim towards them, and you are now an adult. this is your developmental next step.