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So me and this guy have been together about 5 months and everything has been going good. We've had one "fight" but other than that we get along great, he says he loves me and we have a blast when we are together. We were messaging tonight and I was getting tired so I said "cant wait to see you tomorrow I love you night" and he said it back. Then 2 hours later, whilevim asleep i get a message saying he wants to break up and we dont have things in common and all this and that. He changed his facebook to single. So I go to his house and wake him up. I know that seems crazy but I was so distraught and confused. After a lil bit of yelling and a few "get out of my house" we calmed down and started to talk and He said it just seems like all we ever do is watch what show I want or listen to what music I want, and we dont have the same likes anymore. I told him I could give 2 shits what we watch and we could watch porn for all I care and that he just has to talk to me about these kinds of things. He kept apologizing and I asked him is there any part of me that wants to work this out and he said yes and grabs my face and kisses me. We embrace in a hug and he says he was sorry over and over and that this is his first relationship in a long time and he didnt know how to handle it and he said I said I love you when you went to bed cuz I meant it. I asked him numerous times if we were ok and he kept saying yes. His dog started to act up so I left and he said he would see me later. I got home and obviously threw up from all the anxiety. I'm still worked up and numerous thoughts are going through my head like "am I going to get another text while I'm at work" "does he really love me" I just am so confused, I mean I left his house and he said all those things and I feel like he meant it, my depression is just trying to tell me something different. Or is it? I dont know, I need some help.
There is a gross lack of respect to you and it is offending you to the point of driving late at night to settle disagreements. Your thoughts for him could have conserved to the daylight hours, there was absolutely no common sense to going over to his home so late in the night. He should have scolded you for doing it too, that is if he really cares for your personal safety. Yet he used the time to settle his own guilt, pity talk.
I believe that you settled the differences of opinions out of a lack of rest on that night, with both of you as tired and in need of good sleep, a weak, lonely and wounded choice to give it another go seemed wise, yet it is not going to work for you. It appears to me that you may be the only one that's defending what you believe is right in your heart. Dude is buying time, and he has no plans to prove his worth to you.
I am sorry for this...but my idea is that this is a tipsy relationship, and you may still be searching for the guy that's willing to treat you with the kind of life you desire and deserve. I hope for this one to end, however, and please try to move on to a better person for the better of your self-esteem, value what's best for you and judge best by the good feelings that others leave in you.
Love and hugs.