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trying to start dating again but dont know how to go slowly. have been on couple dates and i freak out whenever she doesnt want see me. shes not aware of this although think i may have made comment like wasnt chasing her today then didnt hear from her for many hours. i just want to know how to relax and not think its end of world when someone doesnt want to be with me every minute. i guess that have alot of stress and when something makes me feel good i want it 24-7. but yes am in counseling but just wanted quick advice dont wanna blow this cause really could use some friends right now. i get so down and try not to show my kids but i did today and it hurt cause my daughter could be my twin. we are beautiful people but so insecure and have huge hearts. need help. tired of feeling like this
Well, the first thing that comes to mind is, if you do wig out on the fact that you haven't heard from her for many hours, that you may push her away. Starting with a slow and steady friendship is probably the best way to go. You have to build that strong foundation to build a relationship. If you hurry something, it's as if that foundation is built on sand and it will not withstand the things that may come along.
How long have you known this gal? I see you said you have only been on a few dates . Has she said anything to you about your wanting to be together all of the time? I will tell you that can scare many people. I'm sure it isn't the case with you, but that can be a sign of possesivness and although it may be innocent from you, she may not know that.
All I can say is back off, just take the times you do get a chance to go out and/or talk, get to know each other well, then make that leap if you are both in the same place (mentally, emotionally and physically).
I also notice you say trying to start dating again...how long has it been since your last relationship?
Well, my best to you and I will check back on this post in awhile :)
Can not hurry a relationship.
Hugs, Raoul