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Coping with Loss

ThisIsMe4
ThisIsMe4
I just lost my mother to cancer, it was a long battle but my pain why it's so hard to deal is that..not only did I only lose my mother but she died on my birthday!
I don't understand..i don't get it. Why that day. I'm angry and I feel so horrible for feeling angry.
I just need something anything..im suffocating and i dont know how to deal.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I'm so sorry.

There's no right or wrong to feeIings, they just ARE. The anger may be protecting you in a way, giving you time to absorb the impact of what has happened rather than it aII hitting you at once.

I hope you are surrounded by other famiIy and friends.
AzSherryberry
AzSherryberry
I am so sorry you lost your mom. Cancer is horrible. Anger is a normal part of grieving. When my dad was dying of Cancer I was hurt, sad and very angry. He was nearly dead and looked like death 6 weeks before he died. I started grieving before he died and I know many get angry at God but I was angry at Cancer, that's what killed him. Losing a parent is really, really difficult. When he died a part of my heart died with him. I wasn't me again for a long time. A friend gave me a book on grieving the loss of a parent and I recall reading that it usually takes about 3 years to fully grieve. My dad died in '97 and I do think I fully grieved by the year 2000. You always feel the loss and always miss them but it gets easier with tears and time. I just want to send you a hug and much hope for strength and comfort.

Sherry