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My Grandad passed on the 10th of this month.
My Nan's Brother passed yesterday morning.
I am part of a close knit family, most of which have been dockyard workers for large parts of their lives. It's something of a family tradition.
Both died from Asbestosis related complications.
It saddens me that these two men worked with asbestos before knowledge of it's harmful effect were well known.
I dont know why Im writing this except I am grieving and not very well. I keep having moments where I can pretend all this hasn't happened then it comes crashing back on me. I also have mindful moments where I feel happy my Grandad is no longer suffering, that he has the rest he deserves but not believing in an afterlife, I know I am only lying to myself.
I went to see my Nan this morning and walking into the house and seeing his empty chair nearly had me balling my eyes out but I have to stay strong for my Nan, she needs me more.
I cry when everyone else has gone to bed but my wife knows something is wrong. I just dont want to be smothered with affection at the moment. It's something I'd be better to go through alone.
It's the funeral Friday and everyone is wearing their Pompey tops instead of the traditional funeral garb. I like this idea, it would have made him happy but I dont have a Pompey top in a suitable condition and I feel like I'm letting him down.
He was a good man, one of the best and I miss him dearly. I keep thinking of things that would have made him laugh. It's some comfort.
Thank you for reading my whine.
My Nan's Brother passed yesterday morning.
I am part of a close knit family, most of which have been dockyard workers for large parts of their lives. It's something of a family tradition.
Both died from Asbestosis related complications.
It saddens me that these two men worked with asbestos before knowledge of it's harmful effect were well known.
I dont know why Im writing this except I am grieving and not very well. I keep having moments where I can pretend all this hasn't happened then it comes crashing back on me. I also have mindful moments where I feel happy my Grandad is no longer suffering, that he has the rest he deserves but not believing in an afterlife, I know I am only lying to myself.
I went to see my Nan this morning and walking into the house and seeing his empty chair nearly had me balling my eyes out but I have to stay strong for my Nan, she needs me more.
I cry when everyone else has gone to bed but my wife knows something is wrong. I just dont want to be smothered with affection at the moment. It's something I'd be better to go through alone.
It's the funeral Friday and everyone is wearing their Pompey tops instead of the traditional funeral garb. I like this idea, it would have made him happy but I dont have a Pompey top in a suitable condition and I feel like I'm letting him down.
He was a good man, one of the best and I miss him dearly. I keep thinking of things that would have made him laugh. It's some comfort.
Thank you for reading my whine.
Seeing empty chairs that are supposed to still hold our loved ones is the pits. I remember going through that when my gram passed, then again when my mom passed. It is such an odd and eerie, unpleasant feeling.
Allow yourself to grieve, be it with family, or by yourself, whichever brings you the most comfort. The days ahead will be tough. Please come back for support should you need some.
This is certainly not considered a "whine", friend. This is real stuff, sad events, and I am so very sorry you are having to go through this. Hugs, and hope...remember that they are in a better place, and will always be with you.
A death is never easy to handle and if you like to grieve by yourself than be it. If you want could you buy a new top? If it will make you happy.
I Am so sorry for your pain.
We are all sorry for your losses.