Depression Support Group

Depression is a real and debilitating condition that is often misunderstood by family and friends. Its meaning can range from a prolonged period of sadness to an actual mental illness with specific symptoms. Find and share experiences with others who are going through the same struggles.

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Kars 01/21/2017

Last year I had hint that my depression was starting. Now it everywhere I never once thought anything negative before now I do. There is something I want to tell my mom but I can't I just don't want to hurt her. The only reason I haven't killed myself is because my mom. The thing that I want to tell her is that I'm transgender. But I cant . I want to be my mom daughter she dreams of. But I can't . I can't keep living I. A body I feel trapped in. But even all that I don't want my mom. To be hurt. My mom finally have a baby girl. But that baby girl is not so of a girl. I dress like a boy. That's not the type of girl she want. But she still loves me. But her mean words hurt too. And I know she will never accept who I am.

bridgie101 01/21/2017

It sucks to be young today. Your generation seems so intent on putting themselves into a box and jamming down the lid. You all feel obligated to grab a sexuality and make a statement out of it. Nobody takes their time. Nobody just lets life unfold. It's all grab, jam, yank. Lock it in... such incredible pressure!

There's no need to make a statement! You can be transgender without taking out a full page ad in the paper. You can let life happen to you at its own pace.

I know so many teenagers who want to be this or that, and they have this terrible burden of guilt, and terrible fear of how they will be seen. They have no idea that their parents don't take anything they say all that seriously anyway, so they may as well tell the truth.

Your mother would rather have a live transgender son than a dead transgender daughter. You might get some arguments, but so what? Why not. She's your mother. She's spent at last 17 yrs saving you from yourself so far, the habit is ingrained. If she's right, great. If she's wrong, she'll get used to it eventually.

joel5789 01/21/2017

Hi Kars, I'm in the same situation, my mom loves me as her daughter, but I don't know how would she react if I told her how I feel about this. But still I believe that mothers can change their minds if they really love the person they're a parent of.. I think she should let you be who you are, but if she doesn't accept it, you don't have to be what she wants you to be, you have to be who you want to be, I guess. But anyway, telling her the truth can help you more than keeping it to yourself, even if she finds it difficult to understand or doesn't want to understand at all.. Good luck!

ThePepperMan 01/21/2017

I do not understand transgender at all, but I choose to accept it without understanding in the hope that some day I will. The best I can think to say is that living a lie will continue to tear you down, that you need a place where you can go and not live this lie.

I have no idea where that place is, but I hope others can help you find it.

I do know that once we stop living our lies (does not matter if it is living the wrong gender, or hiding our depression or other things) THEN we can begin to get better.

Please, if you are not getting therapy now look for a good therapist. Make sure it is one who is trained in transgender issues, and has some experience.

Coming out to your mother will be hard, but if you have some good therapy behind you, and a plan in front of you, then the two of you will survive. More importantly, you will survive!

Speaking as a dad, I want my children to be happy, and I would be very sad if they led a dismal life because they were afraid of what I might think.

natalie123 01/23/2017

I could feel the depression in your sound. I think you better talk with your mom openly. She would definitely help you.

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