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Can't catch a break

Angelwood13
Angelwood13

Lately it seems like its one bad thing happening after another. First i got into a huge fight with my best friend and we arent friends anymore...then i almost lost my job because of the fight with my friend and now i dont have enough money to pay my bills. I live with my mom and we usually pay half of everything like split down the middle 50/50 but lately shes been taking so much time off of work because of doctor's appointments and just not feeling good that ive had to pay all of our bills and this month i barely have enough to pay all the bills but i dont have anything left over and i dont know what to do. I used to be so good with money, last year i was able to make my tax money last all year but this year i can't catch a break. i have always been the one to have to financially support my mom and myself and someone like i have to take financial responsibility since my dad and i can't take it anymore. I dont have the strength to do anything anymore because i'm emotionally exhausted and i take a second for myself because i have my mom depending on me. and when i do do something for myself i feel like i wont have the money to pay this bill at the end of the month because i did this or my mom needs the money to pay her car insurance. I cant ask my family for help because my mom and my brother have burned that bridge by asking for some much and when i'm in need it's always "why arent you saving for situations like these?" or "you're shit out of luck Amanda, i cant help you" i just dont know what to do. like i dont think i have the money to pay for my cell phone this month because i have to pay rent, lights, and cable bills. and i only work one day this week so that paycheck is gonna be next to nothing. 

Heidiclark
Heidiclark
Why do you have to even live at home with your mom? You're 21. You're free to move out and do whatever you want with your money. Maybe you can share an apartment with others who have jobs and can pay their share of the bills. That's what I would do.
Angelwood13
Angelwood13
I've tried living with a friend from high school and it ruined our friendship and I ended up in the same position I'm in now. I always end up with taking financial responsibility because that's just how it goes. and by the way there's nothing wrong with living with my mom at 21 a lot of people do it and it's not like my mom pays for everything for me. I buy all my own stuff and pay bills just like every normal adult. It's kind of like my roommate is my mom. and I don't appreciate your judgment...you may have not meant it that way but that's the way it came off as.
Heidiclark
Heidiclark
I didn't mean it as a judgement at all. Sorry if it sounded that way. If you like living with your mom then that's great! Wish my 19 year old felt the same way.
Angelwood13
Angelwood13
It's okay. Me living with her is helping her out because she can't really afford to live on her own right now either and I'm helping her and she is helping me. It's just this month is hard because she's had some medical problems that's caused her to miss work and she doesn't have the money to help right now and I just dont know what to do. My mom is trying to get a loan from a family member for this month but I don't think it's gonna work. I mean if I'm broke for a little bit that's fine. I just like having money to fall back on just in case and not having that is really worrying me.
Heidiclark
Heidiclark
That's understandable. You sound like a very responsible young lady.
Angelwood13
Angelwood13
I try to be
Perry314
Perry314
Hi there. It sounds like you are under an incredible amount of pressure. I think it is great how you are taking care of others. I am wondering though if your mom can apply for government assistance with her needing to take time from work because of her health or even applying for food stamps. This could help take some of the weight off of your shoulders. You have to have some time for you to follow your path as well. What you are doing is admirable and it sounds like you are a compassionate person. I am sorry that it is difficult and that you are under so much stress.
Angelwood13
Angelwood13
She's already tried with food stamps she makes too much money for that and so do I...and that sucks but I'll manage somehow