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My brother is getting married in May. It's going to be an awesome trip and I am looking forward to it...some... But...
Gonna be hard. My dad died a year ago. My mom died 3 years ago. My brother is 54 and never married. He's an awesome guy: looks, money, smarts, etc...just..didnt. The bride is wonderful. people think I'm joking when I say I love her more than I do him--but I'm not.
The problem? I dont function well in large groups of people, especially when I dont know most of them. This will be a destination wedding, which doesnt bother me. That part is great. I think there will be 50-60 people. That's a large group for me. We will be there sharing cabins etc for 3 days.
It would be hard for me even if it was just MY family.But it's mostly their friends and her family and I dont know them. I dont mix well even with my own.. Not only will I be missing mom and dad, it's been a couple years since my own marriage fell apart and I still miss HIM tremendously
I've been anxious about this since they first got engaged. My therapist and I have talked about it often. The game plan is for me to take a short walk or drive or something when I'm getting anxious. Remove myself for short periods of time when i need to. And I feel awful that I feel this way because it's not about me...but..that's what I am thinking of
Gonna be hard. My dad died a year ago. My mom died 3 years ago. My brother is 54 and never married. He's an awesome guy: looks, money, smarts, etc...just..didnt. The bride is wonderful. people think I'm joking when I say I love her more than I do him--but I'm not.
The problem? I dont function well in large groups of people, especially when I dont know most of them. This will be a destination wedding, which doesnt bother me. That part is great. I think there will be 50-60 people. That's a large group for me. We will be there sharing cabins etc for 3 days.
It would be hard for me even if it was just MY family.But it's mostly their friends and her family and I dont know them. I dont mix well even with my own.. Not only will I be missing mom and dad, it's been a couple years since my own marriage fell apart and I still miss HIM tremendously
I've been anxious about this since they first got engaged. My therapist and I have talked about it often. The game plan is for me to take a short walk or drive or something when I'm getting anxious. Remove myself for short periods of time when i need to. And I feel awful that I feel this way because it's not about me...but..that's what I am thinking of
I think u have to find a way to get by those days.
Is this going to be on a boat? If so, then perhaps make a list of the things you can do on board, and do them! Often I find that, when I feel out of place, having a list of things to do makes it easier on me.
Gentle hugs, and ENJOY THE WEDDING!
I hope you allow yourself to relax and have a great time.
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" Smile, breathe, and go slowly." Thich Nhat Hanh
No, I am not close to my brother. Only family member I'm somewhat close to is my sister and we dont really do that well when we are together. My sibs are all outgoing..but I'm not. at all. Even as a child, the more family around the more I withdrew and made myself invisible.
I'm planning to take breaks and go for a walk or whatever when I need to. I'm just not good at small talk and I dont like people that much..hahaha ah well, I will get through it