your not in the same type of relationship with your boyfriends dad, so as long as your polite, diplomatic, that's all you have to do or be. It's hard sometimes with in laws. But with my personal experience, it's okay to limit how much of yourself you want to share with them. Nobody says you have to be BF's with in-laws.

There's pretty much always going to be a parent that doesn't like their child(s) choice in a partner in some way(s) or another.

I had two MILs that couldn't stand me for whatever their crazy reasons (trust me they were crazy reasons) but I married their sons anyway. First marriage lasted 8 years. This last one lasted 3 1/2 until he passed away. My now fiance's mom adored me in the brief time before she passed which made me feel awesome because she saw my good qualities unlike the others who nitpicked and ripped me apart at every chance they got!

Back in the day some people would drive themselves crazy if they hadn't had their partners parents approval, but you have to remember at the end of the day it's you and him, not you, him and his dad. He may not ever like you, but wondering why all the time isn't good for the relationship to continue to grow. Just my 2 cents...

Seems to me, .. at the right opportunity:

"Sir, .. I love (your boyfriend) but I am afraid of saying the wrong things to you, and I don't want you to dislike me."

It is an ice breaker.

Nothing beats the truth.

I think that part of being a reasonable dad (and I believe that I am one to my adult children) is respecting their choices. If I were to disapprove of their friend choices, I would try to be civil to the friend, but express my feelings honestly and openly with my child. So yea, I'm giving your BF's dad the stink eye right now!

I like WV's idea. Go with short and simple statements, but don't expect a heartfelt reaction from him right then and there. Make the statement and then change the subject in as neutral a way as possible.

Gentle hugs

I love everyone’s advice, but have you talked with your boyfriend on how you are feeling? Does he have any advice on what you could do to build a relationship with his father?

Is there something about you that you think he would not like?

I know people who like me and people who don't, but I have never been afraid to find out ... and ultimately, I did not have to ask them.

There are people who used to like me and now don't and the other way around. I did not have to ask them either.

I think you are worrying about a problem you may not have. Visit with him, .. get to know him and let him get to know you. You will find out if he likes you or not.