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Birthday Wishes

Emilymarie2501
Emilymarie2501

So today is my dead father's birthday. He would have been 38. He died in November 2000 due to head trauma in a car accident. I was born 3 months later. I never got to meet him but I still wish he was here. I grew up with no father figure because both him and my grandfather died while I was young. I hear wonderful stories about my dad and just think about him all the time. Would my life be better if he was here? Would he have been a great father to me? How would he have ended up? Would we get along? I wish I knew all the answers to these questions. I know it may seem silly that I miss a person I have never met, but there is an empty hole inside me hat yearns to know what life would've been like if he was to live. It makes me cry a lot and I try not to think about it, but my mind always goes to him. 

billwfriend
billwfriend
sorry that is sad....I think there is nothing wrong with those thoughts....just that they cannot ever be fulfilled....sorry sad as it is.....hugs bill
scutterbug
scutterbug
I can almost feel your tender broken heart. You are the same age as my granddaughter, who we have adopted. Her heart hurts because her biological parents have chosen to live their own lives without being involved in hers. Your sorrows are different, but I will tell you what I tell her and maybe somehow, someday it will make sense. God will use your pain and hurt to comfort others. Be brave. Look for joy. Life isn't fair but God is good. You have a purpose. Your dad did not choose to leave you but you do your best to shine. You are worth more than gold or silver, dear.
sharaninmd
sharaninmd
Sorry you had to grow up without your father. The emptiness you feel is the void of not having a father. You have been told all good things about him, therefore, I believe he would have been a wonderful father to you. Set goals for yourself and live a fulfilling life that your dad would have wanted for you.
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