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I told my brother’s ex (the mother of his children) some stuff I felt she needed to know regarding child support and custody. Knowing my brother’s temper, I made her swear to keep it between us. Well, Friday when he and I were going to the store, they were having an argument on the phone. I went into the store without him because I didn’t want to hear it anymore.
Later, she texted me to say she ousted me while they were arguing, so to be prepared for him to be in a bad mood. He didn’t say anything to me about what she said I told her, but when I asked, she didn’t tell me what she said to him. He never really acted like she ratted me out for anything, so that’s good I guess, but I’m not telling her anything else. She didn’t have to tell him what I said. She could have just taken the information and done what she felt like she needed to do.
I know of a rather big thing that he is lying to her about right now, but I am struggling with not telling her now that she is added to the growing list of people that I cannot trust.
My brother is engaged to a woman in Colombia. They have gone through all of the necessary to get her to come to the United States legally on a fiancé visa. She may be here by March. They will get married at the courthouse, but talking about possibly in December to have the ceremony down there. He told his ex that he needed the kids’ birth certificates for his attorney, when the truth is, he is going to get their passports so they can go to Colombia for the wedding.
This marriage is part of the reason I want to move out. He is such an, excuse my language, asshole and treats people like shit unless he gets his way. I know the marriage isn’t going to last and I don’t want to be there for all of the drama. And there is going to be A LOT of drama.
Unfortunately for his ex, he has some things against her that could help him win full custody. And that’s what he intends on doing when he gets married.
(I know about this because I looked into getting my kids passports so that they could visit Mexico when visiting with their dad when he lived in San Diego. I never did get them, but I was pretty much warned that you have to do it to the letter of the law.)
She has three children. The girls are 16 and 18. They want to stay there to finish school. The boy is 5. My guess is that he is going to stay with her mother until they start the paperwork to bring him here, because his father is in prison and had his rights terminated.
She seems to be a somewhat of a jealous person, or possessive. Our grandmother died over Labor Day 2015. We had a family get together at the lake the day before her funeral. There was spotty cell service out there and when we got home, she was mad because she was unable to get a hold of him all day. They have come so close to breaking up so many times, it seems to be a big waste of time and a lot of money to me.
She is in for a major culture shock. She is not going to be happy. She is going to be miserable. And he is not going to give her enough time to adjust. He doesn’t have the patience for it.
My nephew is 9 years old. He is the sweetest, most loving little boy you would ever have the pleasure of meeting. He is also very sensitive. He was 5-1/2 weeks premature because he had the cord around his neck and was in distress. By the time he was 18 months old, tests determined that he had lost most of his hearing. He got fitted with hearing aids and then got cochlear implants at age 4. He’s a little slow at reading, but he is still very intelligent.
My brother is not patient with him and too hard on him with reading or doing homework, so he gets upset and starts crying. When he gets stressed out, he needs to take a break, then he is fine when he gets back to it. When I help him, he does fine, because I am patient with him. His sister is 7 and is a whiz at reading. I feel that he is being compared to her and that is so wrong.
Regarding therapy, my brother will never go. He feels that even PTSD sufferers only have a weak mind. He is narcissistic, a sociopath, and an all-around jerk. God, help us all!