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being drained

jeanne36roses
jeanne36roses
i am being drained by trying to help my nieces and nephews. after the loss of their mother i have tried to help them as much as i can. what is left that i need to do to help them out? i do not know how much more i can help them.how do i keep helping them? i'm getting to the point where i think i want to end this crazy mess. i might can help out one more time but then i will have to check out of this life...I AM TIRED!!!!!!!!!!!!
deleted_user
deleted_user
Jeanne, it sounds like you're burned out and need time out to take care of yourself. If you don't take care of yourself, you can't help your nieces and nephews. Caretaking is very draining.
How old are they? Is there other family who can pitch in?
Jeanne has to take care of Jeanne!
(((HUGS))).
deleted_user
deleted_user
I commend you on helping them through that. Do what you feel is right but don't sacrifice your well being for it. ((hugs))
jeanne36roses
jeanne36roses
CHIS IS 13, BRITTANY IS 10, AND JESSICA IS 9. THEY DO NOT LIVE WITH ME THEY LIVE WITH THEIR DADS.JESS LIVES AROUND THE CORNER FROM ME AND THE OTHER TWO LIVE ABOUT 40 MILES FROM ME. WE SEE THE OTHER 2 TWICE A WEEK. AND I JUST LOST JESS 3 WEEKS AGO. HER DAD TOOK HER BACK. I HAVE HAD HER IN MY HOME ON AND OFF FOR 1.5 YEARS NOW. MORE ON THAN OFF. WHENEVER HER DAD HAS A NEW GIRLFRIEND OR JUST DOES NOT WANT HER THERE THEN HE DROPS HER OFF AT MY DOOR AND LEAVES HER HERE UNTIL WHENEVER HE "FEELS" LIKE BEING A FATHER AGAIN. BUT WITH SUMMER APPROACHING I WILL PROBABLLY WATCHING HER AGAIN.
deleted_user
deleted_user
You need to take care of yourself first or you'll be of no help to anyone. Please try to take some time for you. You're really wonderful to try to help your nieces and nephews.
deleted_user
deleted_user
i agree with whats been said, for you it me time for a while, i know you want to help and do your best but if your burning the candle at both ends then eventually there will be nothing left to give, take time out for yourself give yourself some room to breathe, step back and see what you want, your nephew and nieces loves you no matter what, and a rejuvinated you would be the best, pamper yourself, you'll get through this but a little reminder about you needing to look after you is sometimes in order
deleted_user
deleted_user
I know what it is to be tired. To help till you can't help no more. It took me reaching a crises in my life before I realized that...Why am I telling you this...because now I am on stress leave from my job...trying to remember how to take care of me, how to do things that will give life to me. The point I am trying to make is you need to take care of yourself, and your needs before you can help others. So I encourage you...take time off...do things for you...things that will give you life.