I see you're 19 correct? If so you're definitely as your screen name applies a baby girl. I take it you feel like if you had a baby you'll have someone to love and love you back? If so a baby won't solve whatever problems within yourself you're having.

I have a 22 year old son who I had at 19 and it was rough!! I was going to school full time/working part-time and being a mommy full time of course. I had to do it all alone; I had no family and his dad was nowhere to be found when I really needed him. Rough, rough, rough!

Even if you have the most wonderful partner in the world it's still no picnic in the park. Your life will never be your own for a long time, unless you're one of these moms that doesn't give two s***s and dumps the kid off to who knows who to party.

You have to make a lot of sacrifices and put your wants/needs on the back burner for awhile. There's doctors appts out of this world during the first year alone. You have to always make sure they've got a roof over their head/clothed/fed/diapers/wipes, etc., etc. and that stuff goes up in price every year! Trust me my mini-me who just turned 4 when I look at things I bought back then has jumped in price.

Don't get me wrong I love my mini-me to the moon and back, however there are times I'm pulling my hair out :P

Having a baby isn't like having a pet where you feed/water it and play with it a bit and that's all. Babies need your full attention more in the first year than any, but also until 18 and sometimes beyond.

You're still young. You have plenty of time. Don't rush things. Try to plan a little more and have more things ready. I understand that a baby is a lot of responsibility.

YOu have to want a baby for the right reasons, which would mean that you're ready, you have a loving commited relationship with the father, You are financially secure, and like gregs baby said, are able to put your own needs on the back burner and put the baby first. Parenting is one of the most challenging thinks a person can take on----maybe even the most challenging. It's not a decision to enter in to lightly. This is a life time comittment. Be sure youre ready.

I’m 19 years old. But I’ve had to grow up. I’m financially ready the father is ready I don’t see the problem.

I have two kids and I adore the heck out of them, that said, if you want someone to love you...get a dog.

The reality of parenting, is that kids will tell you that they hate you ten times for every once that they tell you that they love you...and that's with a good relationship.

Meanwhile, you have to suck it up and tell them that you love them (even when you don't, even when you wonder what made you want to have kids, even when you're TIRED/Sick/have to work/and just want 5 minutes to yourself...my kids are teenagers and they STILL have a sense and somehow manage to want something the minute I go into the bathroom!)

Being a parent is paying for your kids to go to the movies...even if you desperately need new clothes. Paying for their ice creams, pretending that you're not hungry. Buying them a drink, pretending that you're not thirsty too...

All for ungrateful kids who will never appreciate all that you've done for them... and may in fact complain bitterly that you don't love them, don't care, and that they wish that they had the neighbors as parents.


All of that said, I adore my kids. (They tolerate me.) 19 or 39, there are people who make very good parents, and ones that don't. If you enjoy watching another human being grow and develop...it's for you.

If you want love...get a dog.

In another post you wrote "What's the point in living if you have no one" and also "Everyone you love leaves and you don't know why". Does this include the potentil father of your future baby? Are you sure you're ready?

I have 2 adult children. I had my at 20. He was special needs and I was clueless.

Taking care of kids is the most difficult job in the world. They don’t care if you have a migraine or spent the night vomiting.

It’s really true what that say about getting a dog. Your pets will give that unconditional love you will never find with a human. Not unless you are extremely lucky.

Go spend a few hours hanging out at the park or a zoo and watch the kids. Just get an idea of what they can be like.

Hi- I have a friend who got pregnant at the age of 19. It was not planned so she struggled, thankfully, she was still able to finish her college degree. You are still young and you have many opportunities ahead of you. Try to finish college and get a job before you will have baby. Having a baby comes with a big responsibility. Before I decided to get pregnant, I took care of my neighbor’s baby for one week so that I would know if I am ready to have my own child. Try also to baby sit and I hope it will help you to decide if you are ready or not.

Whatever decision you may come up to, I pray that it will give you peace, please keep us posted. Thank you for sharing. God bless.

And let us not forget when they become teenages and no matter how loving, smart, supportive and caring you are, they hate you anyway. Well, for a while. Luckily it doens't last but is very very difficult to live with.

Dang, lol. The complete opposite of me. At your age the last thing I wanted was a kid...and now at 29 the last thing I want is a kid. Please clarify the appeal of having bodily/mental changes along with childbirth? Seems to be the least appealing concept. Why women turn mental over kids, baffling.