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Research has found that there are basically three different attachment types:
SECURE: You find it relatively easy to get close to others and are comfortable depending on them and having them depend on you. You don't often worry about being abandoned or about someone getting too close to you.
AVOIDANT: You are somewhat uncomfortable being close to others; you find it difficult to trust them, difficult to allow yourself to depend on them. You are nervous when anyone gets too close, and often, love partners want you to be more intimate than you feel comfortable being.
ANXIOUS: You find that others are reluctant to get as close to you as you would like, you often worry that your partner doesn't really love you or won't want to stay with you. You want to merge completely with another person, and this desire sometimes scares people away.
Attachment types tend to gravitate more to their like kind although secure types are more broad in choice, one in two will attract to same type with the other one in two attracting to one of the other two types.
Attachment type is established in infancy with the mother being primarily responsible for. This could explain a lot it seems to me.
Now the big question is, what attachment type do you consider yourself to be?
SECURE: You find it relatively easy to get close to others and are comfortable depending on them and having them depend on you. You don't often worry about being abandoned or about someone getting too close to you.
AVOIDANT: You are somewhat uncomfortable being close to others; you find it difficult to trust them, difficult to allow yourself to depend on them. You are nervous when anyone gets too close, and often, love partners want you to be more intimate than you feel comfortable being.
ANXIOUS: You find that others are reluctant to get as close to you as you would like, you often worry that your partner doesn't really love you or won't want to stay with you. You want to merge completely with another person, and this desire sometimes scares people away.
Attachment types tend to gravitate more to their like kind although secure types are more broad in choice, one in two will attract to same type with the other one in two attracting to one of the other two types.
Attachment type is established in infancy with the mother being primarily responsible for. This could explain a lot it seems to me.
Now the big question is, what attachment type do you consider yourself to be?
Well there are plenty candidates here, some are even married with kids, some homeless and some are vulnerable to any sort of attention.
I am all types, depending on what type you are.
I think what you will find most, is that people can be each type depending on the current situations and circumstances in life. It is not a rigid, or set definition of a persons character.
With the case of mental illness especially, in the thick of difficulty many would probably lean more towards anxious, or avoidant, but should their situation change, they could just as easily become secure.
Personally, I lean more towards secure, but had you asked me a year ago, I would have stated anxious. Even further back, I would have considered myself avoidant.
I believe if you can identify with your Attachment type then it gives you a better understanding of why you naturally behave the way you do.
Secure type people rarely suffer depression for any length of meaningful time whereas Avoidant and Anxious types are more prone to.
Ignorance is known to be bliss though.
Simple:
Anxious if I like you. Avoidant or secure if I don't like you or if I simply prefer my own company and could care less whether you hang around or not.