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Sadwriter24
Sadwriter24

I've noticed a pattern that people keep leaving me after I get too attached. My boyfriend left me (suicide), my family disowned me, this guy I was seeing left me to go back to his ex. Those are just a few examples, but I feel like after I get attached to someone, they disappear and I start to feel lonely and depressed. Any advice or support on losing people you love and how to fill the void? 

AnonymousUserGirl908
AnonymousUserGirl908
Hello, I'm Amanda, I'm 15years old actually, and I really don't know alot about this stuff, but I kinda have been in the same position as you and it pretty much sucks. Not getting attached to someone is kinda hard, I mean the person tell you the shit you want to here and then bam! You're attached, they make you feel like they'll always be there and do the little nice things that make you fall deeper. Deeper into what? A trap, a dangerous one, then they leave you hanging. You can try filling the void by finding someone else, and try not to get too attached real quick, wait for them, see there actions and then get attached, don't immediately love that person with your heart, love them with your mind first, I'm sure everything will work out, and if it does, get back to me, I'm 15years old and I also need help that's why am here.

Love you lots. XOXO... MandieyNtshingilation...
soulwarrior
soulwarrior
I sympathize and empathize. I've been abandoned throughout my life time as well.
To be quite honest I've ALWAYS had trouble dealing with this shit BUT,as I make progress in my own recovery and grieving process, certain areas cease to be a problem while others continue to be! The ones that are no longer a problem are no longer a problem because I've used a technique called "chair therapy",afterwards(even though it still took awhile) I forgave them, and I released them to my H.P.. The pain,though,NEVER(fully) goes away BUT I've learned how to deal with it and how to live with it! Do I do it perfectly? HELL NO!!! I'm just as human as anybody else here which means there are times where I falter and I fail and the pain overwhelms(and swamps) me BUT I NEVER allow myself to permanently give up!
For I know my worth,I know that(even though I'll NEVER have a home here on earth) I'll ALWAYS have one in the home of my H.P.,and that my H.P. will make those who need to pay pay and that He can do it FAR better than I EVER could!!! NO ONE WILL ESCAPE HIS JUSTICE!!!
P.S.:H.P.-Higher Power
P.P.S.: I've started journals that give an insight into my struggles and ALL that I've overcome and am still overcoming! I did this 50% for myself and 50% for newcomers who've had,one or more, similar situations.
I don't know whether you have or not BUT,even if you haven't, one(or more) of them might make you feel less alone.
Lots of encouragement and hugs!!:)