I am sorry that you are not doing well lately.

I've learned that all my friends have limits about how much they are able to deal with my problems. Mostly I have enough support between family, friends and my online friends here. Leaning their limits and not pushing them too much seems to have worked for me.

They may not be turning their back on you so much as they are not able to deal with the level of support you are asking of them.

In any event, I am happy to meet you, but sorry for the reasons that brought you here.

I am so sorry to hear of your current depression and for the way people are treating you. That must have felt like a slap in the face. I know this same frustration. It is only here that some people understand my depression and anxiety. The people in my daily life have nearly all walked away from me because I am so deeply depressed and cannot seem to communicate how I am feeling. I surely relate to you.

It feels to me like they are watching me drown without offering any help. Does it feel like that to you? I, like you, do not even understand what I am feeling.

I am so glad you posted here. There are many members who can relate to you. Stay close to the group. Support is here for you.

Wishing you better days.

You have been given some GREAT advice and I would also say you need to keep posting here. See most people that DO NOT suffer from depression DO NOT understand how we feel or what we are going through. They can try to sympathize and relate, but in reality they never will understand. So then these friends, girlfriends, and even family members will distance themselves to a point, because most times they are scared of the unknown and it is best just to shy away in fear.

Please don't take it to heart as most of them just don't understand. Im sorry your girlfriend treated you that way and maybe you would be better off without her, but I will say this too and don't mean to offend you, but people with depression are very taxing on others at times. We tend to focus so much on how we feel that we don't pay attention to either how others feel or how we make them feel.

I wish you luck and please keep posting!

That is a horrible feeling. I have had similar experience. My wife and I have been struggling for a long time now. She doesn't think we go out and do many "fun" things. The problem is, I haven't really found anything to be fun for a long time. When we do go somewhere or do something I find myself just going through the motions and "acting" as best I can to make her think I am enjoying myself. I'm not that great an actor though. It takes too much out of me.

Like my situation, it sounds like your girlfriend just doesn't get what you're going through. In fairness, people who haven't experienced this type of depression don't understand how badly it affects us - something that we here know all too well. I have no groundbreaking advice other than what has already been said. Just keep coming back here. People here can relate to you and offer words of understanding and encouragement. Good luck and best wishes!

I've been lucky to have one good friend through it all. I do my best to.to keep my downs to myself so I don't down the rest.

People that haven't experienced anxiety or depression themselves, have no idea what we're going through. I'm sorry the person you needed most for support wasn't there for you.

Have you ever had a heart-to-heart w/ her to explain exactly what you are experiencing and feeling?

I think sometimes ppl see those of us w/ depression as just feeling blue or having a pity party and we'll snap out of it.

hey, Ive been there when you need someone and everyone leaves your side. Its about the approach you give it

Not sensing a whole lot of love or caring from your girlfriend.

She sounds a bit of a lad. That or her friend who needed food hadn't eaten for a couple of days already so there was a level of urgency?

Without knowing all the facts it's hard to say: but you do need to feel loved and cared for by your girlfriend. If she doesn't love you now, she isn't going to love you more when you have kids....

Take care of yourself. If you don't nobody will.

It sounds like you need a lot of support right now and it might have to come from a variety of sources, not just your girlfriend. One possibility is to get a therapist who you can meet with weekly and work on the issues that are contributing to your depression. And yes do keep posting here. This is a reat place to meet people who understand what you're going through.

I think it is quite common to lose people to anxiety and depression. It is an illness that people just don't understand. I know it was for me and I've heard it from others as well. You might say it is when you find out who your true friends and family are. Sorry your suffering so badly right now and feel so isolated as well. This would be a good time to seek professional help and therapy if you are able to do so. I think therapy would help you a lot right now. Also do some research and find out if there is a support group in your area that you could join It would do you a lot of good to be around others who understand what you are going through.. wishing you the best johnnyboy

I am sorry you feel so alone .....your girlfrend ..and your friends ..have no idea ..about what you are trying to tell them ...if a person has never been through depreshion or angizity ..than ..they just have no idea of what you are going through....they will be impashant ...think you schould just snape out of it ....walk away when you don't .....because ..you are not doing the fun things .....your girlfrend doesent understand just how important it is to you to talk about and get her to understand ....but she will not understand unless she goes with you to see a phitrist ..or counclour and gets edcuated about angizity and depreshion ..................this is not the best time for you to make ..life altering dishions .....think about ..things carfull ......how was your relationship befor you got this way ..if there were problems ..than ..maby walking away ..might be the answer ....you need to get help ..for your self if you haven't already ......this is a good place for you to be because in here you can be understood and not judged .....and you can talk ..and be listened to ...there are many good people in here ..who ...need the suport this site provides including me ....the kind of suport you just can't get from family and friends who have not been through what you are going through .....so ...stick around ....take very good care of your self ......I will keep you in my prayers ...God bless you ...

thanks for the comments to get into details this is what happened too me i woke up one day with virtigo wich means the room seem like it was spinning so i went too my primary doc too see whats was wrong she sent me too the headache doc they said they proscribe anti deppression meds for virtigo me i never took these meds or never needed them i always had a little anxiety hear and there but nothing major i just took some benedryl and i was fine they gave me celexa and messed me up had a bad reaction and havent beeen the same sense became depressed and anxiety through the roof i basicly tried everything from meditation too yoga nothing is working i dont know what that medication did too my brain but it did something havent been the same sense i use to be a body builder a gym rat havent been too the gym sense all these weird body sensation i cant even watch anything related too sports because i get instantly mad that i dont have the drive to do it i been a good actor towards my girlfriend i hid all this from her until one day i decided i cant hid it no more we spoke about it the day after i made the original post i showed her a video on youtube how i was feeling inside she cry like a baby and said i didnt know it was that bad im not use too u like this and she set up a appointment for a therapist i had too much pride too do it myself i hope it helps thanks for listening stil at the crossroad looking for help

Yep! I hear ya! I lost several friends due to my depression. And my husband blames it for most of the problems in our marriage, which is ridiculous, because I do not believe it has impacted our marriage much at all. I work, have hobbies, love to go out, and still have more friends than he does even though I lost a few. So he is pretty much full of it. HAHA You made a good start.....talk to that therapist, even your doctor. If something is not feeling quite right...keep after them and get some answers! And most definitely let us know how it is going! People here get it!

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Hey, Sevennn, I have had vertigo for the last 12 years or so. So, I understand how difficult that is, coupled with depression, anxiety, etc.
I was on meds for it at one point that helped it, Topamax. I was on it 'til I lost insurance and it's an expensive drug but helped me immensely. It's usually for seizures but it helped. (My vertigo was so bad that even lying in bed during an episode was too much and I had to sleep on the floor to help somewhat stop the falling sensation)

It's a very good thing that you opened up to your GF and showing her a video was an excellent way to help her understand what you're struggling with.

I'm happy to hear you have an appt w/ a therapist. Doesnt matter who set it up, what matters is you have that appt. I hope the therapist can help you work through these issues and find coping skills to deal with them.

Have you tried guided meditation, by chance? It's the only thing that helps calm me that isn't a pill. If you go on YouTube, there are tons of videos there. Just a suggestion.