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I've been with the same therapist for 8 years. She has helped me heal through PTSD, DID, and anxiety issues. We are still working on the present problems of depression and eating disorder.
We were in a discussion about relationships. She drew three round circles around each other. She said those that are in the center are closest to me and in a healthy, give and take, trust worthy relationship. As my trust for an individual weaken the further form the center they were placed. It represented the unhealthy interaction between the two give and take relationship on different levels of trust.
Here's were I felt out of sorts with my therapist. I said that she belonged in the center of a healthy relationship circle. She said no she is not there because our relationship is artificial. I did not know how to take that, it bothered me. She continued to explain that in a therapy relationship it's giving in one direction. She is giving to me and I share openly my life issues with her. Where she does not share her intimate life style with me.
I understand what she is saying, but I felt sad that she did not consider that we were in a healthy relationship. I think I've lost some trust with her.
Has anyone had to deal with this??
We were in a discussion about relationships. She drew three round circles around each other. She said those that are in the center are closest to me and in a healthy, give and take, trust worthy relationship. As my trust for an individual weaken the further form the center they were placed. It represented the unhealthy interaction between the two give and take relationship on different levels of trust.
Here's were I felt out of sorts with my therapist. I said that she belonged in the center of a healthy relationship circle. She said no she is not there because our relationship is artificial. I did not know how to take that, it bothered me. She continued to explain that in a therapy relationship it's giving in one direction. She is giving to me and I share openly my life issues with her. Where she does not share her intimate life style with me.
I understand what she is saying, but I felt sad that she did not consider that we were in a healthy relationship. I think I've lost some trust with her.
Has anyone had to deal with this??
Idk how your therapist could let you see her for that long and not consider that any kind of relationship.
She does have a relationship with you, and it is healthy, and it is close. But it's not even, and it's not a 'real world' relationship. It is artificial in that if you were not paying her money, she would not be in your life.
That doesn't mean she doesn't like you or doesn't care for you. It's just that she's outside the study. She wants you to look at your real life.
To be honest, the fact that she told you she is an artificial relationship shows that she is an honest person with you. And that she does care about you. Because if she didn't, she wouldn't say it. :D
:D :D so you are loved and cared for, but it's not a 1:1 balanced even relationship of give and take. It's more like mother/daughter or teacher/pupil. Imbalanced.
We choose our friends based on a lot of personal things, such as shared values, desire to do things together, etc.
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