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Flashreturns 12/07/2017

I previously posted about my shoplifting desire-Im going to call it desire because I think addiction cant gives impression Im powerless and Im not. I just give into the desire.

After posting here on Tuesday (I think) I stole again. About 80 dollars worth. Why-I just turned off the rational part of my brain and went for it. Luckily I did not get caught. I have stolen from shops,family and work. Very dangerous stuff.

Enough is enough. If caught -my job and Marriage will be on the line. So Im committing to posting on this thread each day.
im committing to stopping.

Im committing to dealing with my underlying depression.

Im committing to a more positive life.

Sure I would love some encouragement but in the end the value of this thread is to keep me honest

WanderingVet 12/07/2017

It is all semantic. If you want a word for it, .. COMPULSION is the one I would use. Personally, . whatever word ... it is 'barely' controllable ... evidently. I think it will take PROFESSIONAL intervention to stop it. Seriously. A compulsion can almost .... ALMOST be an addiction. One as serious as the other.

You are right ... enough is enough.

nazeast23 12/07/2017

keep up the good work . i hope one day soon you will be able to concur this addiction.

ThePepperMan 12/07/2017

I agree with WV; therapy would be an excellent way to work on this. Therapists are required to inform authorities when there is a risk of violence, I am not sure what their requirements are with regard to shoplifting.

Gentle hugs, and best wishes for your journey to resolve this.

Flashreturns 12/08/2017

Well day one down. Yes im seeing a therapist

Flashreturns 12/09/2017

Second day clear

jaynib 12/09/2017

I'm glad you are seeing a therapist. And glad you are seeking accountability. Tell your husband you are struggling with this. And may I suggest going down to the courthouse and sitting in on some proceedings for petty theft. They are public and you can ask where the misdemeanor courtroom is. Watch some people and the consequences they have to face and maybe this can help curtail your desire to take something, especially because it sounds like you don't have a legitimate need for these things. I will pray for you.

Flashreturns 12/19/2017

Thats great advice. I had thought of that. Must act on it. I did slip again and again it was just stealing for the sake of stealing. My life is not that bad but because of my neurosis I lost a few friends in work. Irrevocably lost and hard to see them every day. Though I dont work side by side with them. Just pass them by. Same building

Flashreturns 12/27/2017

Well i slipped again last two days. I really have to avoid situations with hand bags around as its just too tempting. Looked through a handbag but luckily there was nothing to take.
All of this within a few feet of my entire family . I just cant go those places while in recovery mode.
I need to keep lòoking for a better therapist . I need to give this more priority and i need to drink less
God help me

Flashreturns 01/30/2018

Went clean Dec 31. Staying clean

Flashreturns 01/30/2018

31 days clear. Can i get some support ?

Flashreturns 02/04/2018

34 days clear-any encouragement??

soulsearcher83 02/04/2018

I actually read that many people who shoplift have depression.

https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/what-the-wild-things-are/201110/shoplifting-theres-more-the-story

I'm not giving an excuse but if you know the science behind it, it may be a tool in helping circumvent the behavior. Personally, I think people who shoplift need help, either financially and/or psychologically, not punishment. I see these total dirtbags get away with horrible crimes thanks to our system but then these same judges throw the book at shoplifters.

Try to find a therapist that deals specifically with compulsions like this. It's awesome that you have gone over a month without doing it. You are capable and can do this. Best of luck.

Cicatrices 02/04/2018

Congratulations! I'm very proud of you!

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