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Alliegator 07/27/2008

So my mom is currently talking about my psychiatrist and how I see someone regularly while I'm at school. She is telling this to a group of family friends. I don't know how I feel about this. I mean I'm not ashamed of my depression. Its part of who I am and I can't do anything about that but I still don't really want other people discussing it . It should be my decision who knows and who doesn't. These aren't people I particularly think need to know about my psychiatry schedule. I especially don't think my mom should be talking about it when I am in the house 2 rooms away. Maybe I am over reacting.

deleted_user 07/27/2008

In my opinion , your mom should not do that.
She is breaking your right of confidentiality.

WanderingVet 07/27/2008

totally agree with Angelusblond. Tell her she is making public your private and confidential issues and you don't appreciate it. I am sure she is just "not thinking".

deleted_user 07/27/2008

yes, she shouldn't really do that Allie, but some parents insist on letting everyone know how important and how they are taking care of their mental health. idk what yur mom would be trying to accomplish in doin this tho.

deleted_user 07/27/2008

if you want someone to know that should be your choice not your mothers I understand your upset it is your right to have control over who get that info or not

milly17 07/27/2008

Nope honey, mum should not be doing this so tell her. You may be young but you have a right to your privacy as much as she doesx

ThePepperMan 07/27/2008

I agree. As a parent (my kids are older than you) I will tell you that it is common for parents to talk to other parents about things like this. You can ask your mom to be more selective about who she talks to, and when.

The critical thing is that information like this often crosses generation boundaries, and choosing who knows of your contemporaries should be YOUR decision.

deleted_user 07/27/2008

No you are not over reacting even the Doctor can not discuss your mental health.

I suggest you talk to you parents in a nice calm way and tell it makes you feel uncomfortable even betrayed that it is no one else's business what is going on with you and if you want anyone to know you will tell them your-self.

Tell them please do not talk to anyone about my really personal issues it is making you lose trust in them so please respect my wishes>

ZAZAS 07/27/2008

depends on the freinds.........but your right, Mom should not do that. You have a right to privacy, maybe you should tell her how you feel, and that you prefer she doesnt discuss your medical matters with anyone but you. Or, you can leave her out of the loop.

deleted_user 07/27/2008

not a parent but i think this is not ok

mystie 07/27/2008

You are not over reacting. I am angry with my mom right now myself for telling too many people in my family. THis came to a head on Wednesday while at the psychiatric hospital to get a family members records. I confide in my mom and I don't feel she should be telling everyone what is happening with me. I also am sick of hearing what she thinks other people think I should do or not do or that they don't really "believe" in all this.
I have now made the decision that I will not confide in my mom anymore. Which yet again brings in light the fact that I have ZERO support system.

deleted_user 07/27/2008

You are NOT overreacting. Mishka. Hugs

deleted_user 07/28/2008

I realize this creates some level of tension for you...but, with most people, the buzz goes in one ear and out the other. Most people she would tell are either not your contemporaries or are not any people closely allied with your life in any way, anyway. So, on a cosmic scale, it means nothing. Maybe she just likes to hear herself talk.

deleted_user 07/28/2008

my mum told the world of my abuse....NOT COOL

deleted_user 07/28/2008

If it's upsetting you, then you're not over reacting. Maybe say to your mum that its unlikely she would appreciate it if she were in your shoes right now, and frankly, its no one else's business if you see someone regularly - it's no different than seeing your doctor about any other illness.

Well done for talking to someone though! Keep it up and I hope it helps
x

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