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I was doing pretty well until recently. I have been off my meds and have been managing ok. Lately though, it seems like I have no purpose for being here. My kids could care less about what I say or ask them to do and my husband seems like he would rather be outside doing something than spending any time with me. I am left at home all day with my kids and when he gets home at night, he is outside until it is time to come in and sit down and watch tv until bed. He also has had trouble with porn in the past and this morning I found a gay porn site in the cookies on his computer. I was not checking because of him, I was making sure that my 12 year old son had not been to any sites that I had not approved. I confronted my husband and he tried to tell me that it just came up when he had been searching for a wrecking yard to get some parts from. I must be stupid to keep believing him, but I am getting to the point that I really don't care, or at least that is what I tell myself.
I agree with sacred. But do you think he is gay? Because that would be a whole different reply.
Marriage is tough,but communication and allowing the other person to be whoever they need to be to work though their own head trip.
Your right why should you care,logically it is his drama you can't make it better. As I see it you have to decide if you can accept and live with his drama or not.
What will be most helpful for your children?
As your know your are the Mom. You want your children to have wonderful healthy relationships and families.
You must show them what that looks like.
Please go on a date, somewhere away form family .
Then you must tell him how you feel and why. Listen to what he says.Communication can lead to clarification
I believe you will feel much better.Sorry you are feeling so down.
After rereading this,if any good comes of this, I will be surprized cause I am a ass.
I agree, you can only change yourself.
Having a husband who is involved in pornography is as hurtfull as having a husband who has affairs. The emotions of betrayal, hurt and anguish can be just as bad. With pornography you have nothing tangible to fight. The gay site doesn't necessarily mean that he is. It's just that usually a person addicted to porn always has to up the anti. What was enough 6 months ago doesn't give as much pleasure now. So new things have to be tried. You say that you have been on meds. Could you find a proffesional to help you deal with the pain in your life. I think that you are the most importand thing right now.
Does it sound lke I may know a little about this.. yes, I lived in it for about 15 years. It was pure hell. I doubted everything I was: from being sexually lacking to just plain not believing that I was a good enough person. As the years went by I tried to be the good wife and try to help him "quit". There was absolutely nothing I did that helped even a little. Please take care of you and seek help. You can't help but care, that's what us wives and mothers are built like.