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Ok im always up and down with my school counselor...she helped me alot when i told about the sexual abuse, helped me get into therapy....but i realized she only does things to only save her own ass. with the SA i told her about it in the beginning of the year,in september.... she listened...then in november i told her how i get flashbacks and after everything was out she claimed that i said he only brushed up against my boob, that it was an accident...wat a lie!!!! i told her what i happened, just not the flashbacks , thats the same thing i told the former counselor before her and she started critizing my other counselors saying how they didnt do their jobs!
She tells the principal that she sees me once a week, no she doesnt, not at all, not even once every 2 weeks. i went a month w/o going to her and ther was no guidance pass. when the pricipal wanted to observe her, guess who she wanted to counsel??...she seemed different and i realized she listened and took me more seriously when the principal what in the room. she only wants to talk to me when im in a crisis to make her look better....when i told her i was sad and cant get out of this mood, she told me to snap the fuck out of it, just like that.
she called me a drama queen before, she told me that she sometimes is annoyed that i come to visiti everyday...my former skool counselors were glad i visited, they all said tht they liked the company...idk! omg!!!
idk y i keep gong to her, when i go to another counselor at the school, shes gets mad, and tells me to stop counselor jumping. i dont know what to do...i dont want to express that im unhappy with her, but i want to be able to talk to another counselor and not be sent to her. i hate that she only wants to save her ass...even when i burned my hand in cooking she got me ice thenshe said to go to the nurse, i asked why, thinking she cared and she said cuz if something was wrong, im gnna get in trouble...ughhh!!!! is it just me being a bitch?? i would like advice, or replies
She tells the principal that she sees me once a week, no she doesnt, not at all, not even once every 2 weeks. i went a month w/o going to her and ther was no guidance pass. when the pricipal wanted to observe her, guess who she wanted to counsel??...she seemed different and i realized she listened and took me more seriously when the principal what in the room. she only wants to talk to me when im in a crisis to make her look better....when i told her i was sad and cant get out of this mood, she told me to snap the fuck out of it, just like that.
she called me a drama queen before, she told me that she sometimes is annoyed that i come to visiti everyday...my former skool counselors were glad i visited, they all said tht they liked the company...idk! omg!!!
idk y i keep gong to her, when i go to another counselor at the school, shes gets mad, and tells me to stop counselor jumping. i dont know what to do...i dont want to express that im unhappy with her, but i want to be able to talk to another counselor and not be sent to her. i hate that she only wants to save her ass...even when i burned my hand in cooking she got me ice thenshe said to go to the nurse, i asked why, thinking she cared and she said cuz if something was wrong, im gnna get in trouble...ughhh!!!! is it just me being a bitch?? i would like advice, or replies
While I don\'t know any of the particulars its possible that the other students like her because they only go to her for problems that are sporadic and lesser in nature--like a break up, or a fight with mom. When students see her for things like that she probably tells them its going to be okay, gives them a pat on the back, hands them a piece of peppermint candy, and sends them on their way.
When a person has abuse (or other traumatic experiences) in their past usually more regular counseling is needed. It sounds to me like she just doesn\'t want to deal with the hard stuff. I don\'t know what all is her problem--she could be lazy or, if you want to give her the benefit of the doubt, overwhelmed. Either way, she isn\'t really going to help you.
I would say try and change to this other counselor. Tell her you just don\'t seem to mesh with the other lady you were seeing at this school. Trust me. Often people will go to see several counselors before finding one they truly feel comfortable with. It shouldn\'t seem odd that you would do the same.
An effective counselor listens carefully and asks thoughtful questions that helps a person discover more about themselves. Name calling such as "drama queen" or making assumptions about inner motives is not part of a professional\'s methods.
It might be better to change counselors, but that means you\'ve given up on her. On the other hand, you might be able to help her become a better counselor if you calmly, respectfully and clearly explain to her what you feel that you need from her, to help you heal.
You have nothing to lose by trying this and you both stand to gain.
Wishing you the best outcome
Just change counselors...In time she\'ll probably get fired anyway.
HUGS
good luck :)
When you make the switch do not try to go back to the old counselor (don\'t make/initiate further contact with the old counselor, but stick with the new one. It is usually important to work mainly with one therapist at a time in cases such as yours, to keep your therapy consistent.