Depression Support Group
Depression is a real and debilitating condition that is often misunderstood by family and friends. Its meaning can range from a prolonged period of sadness to an actual mental illness with specific symptoms. Find and share experiences with others who are going through the same struggles.
i can post this topic in several formus and probably will fof other sapects, but my depression is getting worse, for alot of reasons,
my story in a nutshell, wife had multiple affairs last year, she moved out, kds stay with me 5 or 6 nights a week, our agreement i support them while they are here you take care of things when you have them any major financial burdens we split. anyhow living in our house with our dog the kids and everything made every thing financially tight, and i gave her back the house as of Nov 1. i moved into a half a duplex, could not take the dog, due to the lease so i left the dog with her and her boyfriend who lives with her, my kids are always with their friends so i am alone alot, i have tried going out, but i am not much into the bar scene, i lost alot of friends due to how my spouse was or because i grew up and they did not, and i dont get out to meet people i have had a few dates in the last year all one and dones. never a second date, one because of me, the others because the women were crazy or i dont know,
anyhow, i have gone on online dating but i cant even get people to talk to me, so my slef esteem is taking a nosedive, i used to be confident and outgoing now i cant even remember how to start off any thing with a person, as in interacting or anytrhing, its like i have no desire to do anything but work make sure my kids are taken care of and lay on my couch. i just cant seem to shake this funk i am in and get out of it. i guess yesterday after i took my kids to their mothers at 10 am and was alone totally on xmas everything kind of hit me and i know people get depressed over holidays but its not just holidays that has me in the funk its everything, and i cant crawl out.
my story in a nutshell, wife had multiple affairs last year, she moved out, kds stay with me 5 or 6 nights a week, our agreement i support them while they are here you take care of things when you have them any major financial burdens we split. anyhow living in our house with our dog the kids and everything made every thing financially tight, and i gave her back the house as of Nov 1. i moved into a half a duplex, could not take the dog, due to the lease so i left the dog with her and her boyfriend who lives with her, my kids are always with their friends so i am alone alot, i have tried going out, but i am not much into the bar scene, i lost alot of friends due to how my spouse was or because i grew up and they did not, and i dont get out to meet people i have had a few dates in the last year all one and dones. never a second date, one because of me, the others because the women were crazy or i dont know,
anyhow, i have gone on online dating but i cant even get people to talk to me, so my slef esteem is taking a nosedive, i used to be confident and outgoing now i cant even remember how to start off any thing with a person, as in interacting or anytrhing, its like i have no desire to do anything but work make sure my kids are taken care of and lay on my couch. i just cant seem to shake this funk i am in and get out of it. i guess yesterday after i took my kids to their mothers at 10 am and was alone totally on xmas everything kind of hit me and i know people get depressed over holidays but its not just holidays that has me in the funk its everything, and i cant crawl out.
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When you begin to fixate or dwell on the unpleasantness, think of all the good things - the things that a growing percentage of the people in this country very much need, and gets a little further out of reach, every day. Give yourself credit for even the little things you do, that help someone, or that improve your mood/ outlook.
Small things add up and make a positive difference.
Figure out things you've always wanted to do -- depression makes it so difficult to get enthused over anything. It takes a lot more energy to make yourself go outside, but nature - some trees, a path to walk down, can noticeably improve your mood.
We all just get the one life. Eating very healthy food and getting outside for exercise can make a huge difference. Some people find therapists helpful and/or prescriptions. All the steps you would take to try to help someone you loved, who was having a hard time dealing with things -- take those steps to help yourself.
It's always better to get yourself into a good frame of mind, be comfortable with your own life, before searching for someone
to share it with.
Sure hope things get better for you soon.
Sending you good thoughts and wishes.