(((Sindygo))) Parents aren;t always what they should be, I know.

Try to find people who support you. Maybe a confidant at your church?
Maybe confide your feelings to a trustworthy counselor at school?
You do sound like you are doing all. Somebody else's failings are not yours. The adults around you may not always be of sound judgement. Hang in there. the day is coming when you won't have to answer to anyone, you will be a functioning adult on your own at your own pace aiming for your goals.

triple hugs

And if you are already on your own. Try to recognize their shortcomings as just that, and they have no reflection on you.

Sindy90,

I am so very sorry for you and what you are going through. I'm a dad (my kids are in their early to mid 30s), and I really get angry at parents who do things like this to their kids.

I've had many friends here who got little emotional support from their parents. Most of them report that the best way is to stop looking for it. Keep your mom in your life or not as you see fit (I always vote for keeping relationships going), but protect yourself.

Gentle hugs

I agree with PepperMan. It is totally up to you how to handle the situation, but remember to take care of yourself. I really think that nancy is right, too. Try to find someone to talk to. Even if it isn't the person you expect, God always gives us someone. In fact, it is often someone we don't expect. But PLEASE take care of yourself in the mean time. You have to put yourself before others sometimes, simply for sanity's sake as well as to make sure you can eventually help take care of others. Message me if you need to, love. Lots of love and hugs! <3

Thank you for sharing. I can definitely relate to a mother saying awful things about me to others. It does hurt worse because it is your mother. If that were the only thing bad thing my mother has done to me, then I would be very lucky. One would think it would be easier to take over time, but it never does. You want to love and trust your mother, but it hurts not being able to trust her. Broken trust with a broken heart. You can just be the best you that you can be, while doing your best to not be like that which you hate. Hate being the backstabbing and lying behavior.

You are never alone, as The Lord is always with you. Sometimes the dark clouds or fog of Depression can make it hard to see. Depression causes self-loathing and mix that in with a loved one wronging you, and one can be overwhelmed with the feelings of hate. No shame in getting helped. A trained therapist or counselor can be of great help and refer to a Doctor with medication if needed. The Lord uses many ways to help us, and you can see and feel His Love in others. In prayer you will find that only The Truth remains. Depression's lies and others' lies can't stand up to The Truth. You are loved by The Lord more than is humanly possible. You can message me whenever you like. I would be happy to read and reply. I do understand about loneliness, but then remember I am never truly alone. You are in my prayers. Thank you and God Bless.

It can be a challenge working through our loneliness; however what sometimes help is focusing on our strengths, recognizing the positive qualities we posses. Also showing others that we care about them by taking a genuine interest in them. Lastly following the advice of the Bible in Colossians 4:6 'Let your words always be gracious'

Yeah, I am not surprised. I have been lied to by my father for more than twenty years. I know what it is like and how hurtful it is. I have been feeling so betrayed. It really hurts so much.

God bless,
Zuhair

Thank you guys so much! I didn’t realize how horrible my grammar was last night. I hate that so many others know how it is like but it is comforting to know you can get through it.

While I’m in school and work full time I’m currently living at home. I plan to move out upon granduation when I get married.

Her new accusation for today is my long term boyfriend is cheating on me. She treats him about the same as she does me and won’t allow us to get engaged.

She is so very controlling and feds these lies about me and him into my siblings. they have slowly turned from me as well.

Thank you all again. ❤️

Sindy90,
I understand where you are at. I have parents like that too! It took me years and years to learn how to best deal with my parents. First: I had to learn that I am not living to please my parents! I am a grown up and what matters in my life is " how I choose to live my life, the goals that I have and want to achieve, the family and friends that I have in my life are my life line, not their's." Second: What my parents have to say to others is of no concern of mine. If they want to talk, let them talk. I know the truth and those who are apart of my everyday life know who I am and know the truth as well. Third: I had to humble myself and pray and pray and pray some more! I asked God to forgive me of my judgement that I have had towards my parents and clear my negative thoughts and clean all my sin away so that I can come before Him and ask God for a sound mind and peace of mind and soul. I had to ask him for wisdom of how to correspond with my parents....Fourth: I had to learn how not to let my parents not step all over me! I had to muster up the courage and talk to them and lay down my expectations for them. I had to tell them about how I did not appreciate being judged and lied about and how foolish you think I am....I am who I am! I am your daughter, I am going to live my life the way I best see fit for me! If you can not respect who I am and how I live my life and the choices I make then I am sorry for that, but you have no say in who I am. I am also going to give you my forgiveness, you have no control over my life any more and I am set free from your bondage.
This helped me tremendously! if you feel you can not talk to her, then write her a letter and send it to her. Express your thoughts and free yourself from her bondage and control- (forgive her even though she has not asked for it). When you give yourself permission to forgive, you will feel free!
I am so excited that you are a Sunday School teacher and that you go to church. Keep up the great job! I will pray for you!

Thank you so much! That is the hardest for me is in times of need just leaning on Him. It’s a lot easier when things are going great. I appreciate your reply and support. Luckily my father is supportive of me. (Heavenly and earthly lol)

OH, sad! I'm so sorry! That is very frustrating and depressing when you are doing well and it isn't seen or encouraged. She may possibly be going thru her own inadequacy and possibly is out of balance in some way. Think of her complaints as you would someone more distant and whose problems have no reflection on your actions and it might not sting as much. Listen and then take sympathy on her incorrect statements and give her a hug even as she speaks as tho her health is what is wrong. You may see change in her or not, but it won't change your goals or discourage you. Keep on keeping on, God bless you in all you do!! Breathe deep in the Spirit of love and grace, and breathe out anger, frustration and hurt. If you can, look at how you can help her mind be at ease more. I buy almonds and ginseng tea to help those who are anxious worriers or complainers and give them as a gift or serve them in love if they want them. The help with these problems. Research her symptoms and look for food that help w them. Prayers for you for strength and wisdom! <3

Just try to talk to your mom, open up your mind. That can sometimes wipe off all the issues that are there inside her mind.