Depression Support Group

Depression is a real and debilitating condition that is often misunderstood by family and friends. Its meaning can range from a prolonged period of sadness to an actual mental illness with specific symptoms. Find and share experiences with others who are going through the same struggles.

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afreshstart 04/08/2017

im new to this site and I have a problem.

So Friday just was a crappy day at school. And I'm in so much trouble and just yeah. Basically school found out about me searching suicide and harm and then I was like oh that's one of my friends.

In reality it is both of me and my bf but I can't say that. So I blamed it on a different friend. Now 15 min before school ended my bf went out to the guidance office since they got called down and now school knows we are in a relationship. I lied to my parents and said I'm not harming anymore and suicidal or depressed but now school finds out and I'm freaking out! This is such a mess!!

Everyone in my friend group found out. My 2 friends told my counselor and now it's just a giant mess and I haven't really stopped crying since I got home. I told my parents I never cut anymore since summer but I sliced up both my hips Thursday night. I am so afraid to go back to school Monday. My counselor is having follow up meetings about a depression and harming google doc my bf and I made that was for us to vent our depression and feelings on and somehow someone told my counselor about that too. We both are in trouble. My parents think it was my close friend but it wasn't and I kinda lied about that. I'm so scared and lost. I'm scared that Monday or Sunday my parents will find out and then I will get in big trouble and maybe have to go to a psych ward?? Sorry bout ranting again I feel bad about it and I really need advice.

misleadingsmile 04/08/2017

Nobody WANTS to go to a psych ward, but don't believe your TV set about them...most are pretty warm and inviting and genuinely want to help you. Personally, I've been inpatient 8 times (not counting rehab) for varying degrees of mental illness...at the risk of sounding cliche, please stop cutting yourself...I did it for 7 years (clean now for almost a year) but I have to explain my scars to every doctor that sees me in a hospital gown...trust me when I say the pain is temporary, but the scars last a lifetime

Heidiclark 04/08/2017

There's no need to hide the fact that you need help. And a psych, ward isn't a punishment; it's a place to get help when you can't be safe. Apologize to those you lied about and show up at school Monday and in front of your parents showing that you are ready to take responsibility for your illness and for your actions.

sonnycamehome 04/08/2017

Things are so tangled up now, the only way out is to tell the truth. Being honest will show maturity and integrity on your part. It might be difficult to tell the truth because people might be upset that you've been lying, but it's the only way out of this mess.

sharaninmd 04/08/2017

Be honest with your parents. They only want what is best for you. They want you to be healthy and safe. Please get the help you need in order to get better.

mycat2 04/08/2017

always tell the truth lying only makes the problem worse.♥

bridgie101 04/08/2017

you haven't done anything wrong. being 'found out' for needing help isn't actually anything wrong. You do need help. You were searching for help. And they care, so they want you to get help. As to dobbing your mate I'd call that 'standard practice.' I'd give it a level of punishment around 1, where I would waggle finger and say 'at least you gave it a go, ay? at least you gave it a go.' Everyone can understand why you did it. It's funny if anything. Not a crime. And anyone who focused on it would have to be mentally - what's the word for that nowadays? "Challenged"?

You're not in the dog box. Your parents love you. Not loving you would be not caring if you were searching suicide websites. That's what not caring would look like.

You can cry' it's really good to cry. Let the pain out. but don't for one second think that you're 'in trouble' for this. You're clearly in trouble, already, because you're miserable. But you're not "in trouble".

Let the people in your life who love you do what they can for you. They can't bear to lose you.

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