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My teenage daughter, who has a mental illness and is in treatment, can become quite abusive. She is socially inept, and most of her troubles are because of this. We, together, have recently experienced a trauma, relocating due to the loss of our home, and her abuse has become marked - she is in a new area, a new school, and a different state now, and her major loss was the therapist and other practitioners treating her and starting over with new ones.
It is nearly impossible for me to help her through this when she will not let me and becomes this abusive, and I've not been pushing her too hard, but last night we hard an argument which once again escalated to throwing things across the room (and at me), and I am at a loss for ideas.
She calls me names and insults me, screams and blames me for everything in the world - a variety, mind, nothing specific, and this is when she is asking for something. She will not eat when I cook something - insulting my cooking - and screams for ages when I ask her to make herself something - things are provided (that she chose) that she can cook for herself. She wants me to buy her clothes, but if I pick them up she will not wear them and she will not come with me to choose them herself.
I cannot seem to please her in any way, damned if I do and damned if I don't, so to speak. The subjects of this damnation, mind, are universal.
Any suggestions?
It is nearly impossible for me to help her through this when she will not let me and becomes this abusive, and I've not been pushing her too hard, but last night we hard an argument which once again escalated to throwing things across the room (and at me), and I am at a loss for ideas.
She calls me names and insults me, screams and blames me for everything in the world - a variety, mind, nothing specific, and this is when she is asking for something. She will not eat when I cook something - insulting my cooking - and screams for ages when I ask her to make herself something - things are provided (that she chose) that she can cook for herself. She wants me to buy her clothes, but if I pick them up she will not wear them and she will not come with me to choose them herself.
I cannot seem to please her in any way, damned if I do and damned if I don't, so to speak. The subjects of this damnation, mind, are universal.
Any suggestions?
Not without a lot more information. Even THEN, I am no expert. A mental health professional (FULLY qualified) would give you better answers than I ever could.
I can (probably) waste some of your time with the following:
What is her diagnosis?
What is her age?
Is she in school? If yes, is it a 'special needs' school?
Is she aware that assault and battery is a crime .. even by the mentally ill?
You can discuss this with a layman .. with limited results or with a professional and find out what is best for all involved. I recommend the professional.
Sounds like this behavior has been present for a good long time, and its just escalating. She's doing it because she can.
I would phone her former therapist for suggestions, and options. This can't be allowed to continue. It must stop now, otherwise it will get even worse.
Good luck.