Gosh aren't your family your source of happiness???

Weird... I can't really relate as I've never moved

But I'll take a wild guess

Something that formed your identity you've lost? Like perhaps you were a teacher or a gym addict and you have lost that role?

I don't know.... Guess you had a load of attachments that got ended with the move??

In which case the pain will pass with time, perhaps get a counsellor or share your feelings over a helpline?

Try ringing all those people you miss??? Regular...

It probably upsets your boyfriend to know his choice to move has upset you do. And he's not man enough to help you process your feelings

For some reason very few people including family will help you digest your feelings

Try going to church they often welcome new people and have socialising events

If things were good back home then that must really sux not to be there... And to have to start over
It's hard work building up long term friendships

Can you travel home regular??? Like parents there or something???

Dbt skills support groups journaling art building a new life in this new area will all help this pain to pass

Ending attachments can send people "crazy" and cause lots of pain

It's understandable that your hurting

Time to take some action to feel better now

Also why not get involved with your kids more?
Don't ignore them while they play, did you know their thoughts and feelings are expressed through play??

Isn't that interesting? Aren't you curious to see what's going on for them

Go get some two way interaction going on

It will feel better being alone with them then

Dance to music together, do some art, play hide and seek

Kids are fun

Don't be bored and lonely in the company of your own kids

However I have experienced attachment loss making connection to kids hard, it's like your not the one getting your needs met I guess so they don't really remove the pain your in???? Dunno

I find alot of joy being with my kids. They are the only thing that makes me feel alright most of the time. The move here disconnected me from alot of my family. Nd what friends i had. Here i dont know anyone so its hard to find people that have the same common interest as myself. My boyfriends family is here. But i cant talk to them without them painting a picture of me thats most likely not going to be good. When my house isnt clean im told i never do anything around the house. I have 4 month old twins. He doesnt really help with. I want to cry nd cry nd cry some more.

Mmm... Yeah I wouldn't suggest crying on his family, I don't know why but people rarely support each other like that
And good impressions and stuff

(I don't know wish they would support you maybe)

Is it far from your home town where your at? Perhaps you could visit often.

Visiting often combined with Facebook, texts and phone calls can help to maintain that feeling of connection.

Can you get a counsellor who you can cry to to release some of the tears with a comforting other?

Tell your partner that if he won't help heal your heart then he should pay for counselling so someone will support you!


Perhaps it will make him more considerate
Perhaps it would make things worse you decide obv

I suggest going to stay with family for a few days to help calm yourself down and then commit to regular visits so your not ending these relationships just seeing them less often...

I know what it's like to have inconsolable tears, my advice is to learn not to think about what's upsetting you. Your trigger

In my case it was a mother figure and the grief was excruciating. Years on if I really think about it I will still trigger inconsolable tears, I've learnt that distraction ends the suffering rapidly

This ability will come with time, I'm not bothered any more and forget 99% of the time and that feels natural and ok and good

Come on now, it will be okay,

Also have you considered post natal depression???

Crying all the time although understandable, could be a sign of this condition

Get yourself off to the gp, don't let it snowball xxx

Thank you for taking the time to talk to me. Feeling like someone cares has already helped me so much. I need to see a counselor forsure. I most deff hace some post partum going on. Its really a hard thing to work with. I try to contact aomeone in my family pretty often. Everyone just seems busy living their own lives i mostly feel in the way.

Argh! This guy again, I tell you what for half the price this miracle worker is charging I too well cast a spell powered by an army of angels for you

Geez... Last thing you need when your going psychotic is all that mumbojumbo in your head!

Physical reality is all there is, if you start believing in unseen stuff you could enter an altered state of consciousness where you start seeing and thinking all kinds of weird and frightening stuff

You will give away a fortune for seasoned professional to protect you and your imagination will still screw you over

Just don't go there,

Anyway, I'm glad your feeling a bit better, xxx

((hugs))

Perhaps try saying to your family your missing them and it would be easier to cope with the move if they made a phone call to you every x night apart of their routine.

I'm sure there are some who will do this x

People generally are a bit selfish and absorbed in their lives but you don't need them to pull through, you can do this x

The post partum depression will make it difficult to carry on, I guess sometimes birth is a bit of a trauma for the body and it must just go like that in reaction. Try to get some medication as I think it's a physical thing you know
Not so much about the ole "you got to fight it" thing

If it carries on you might feel worse and less able to function, so get it checked out asap ok ? Xxx

I've got to head to bed now but add me as a friend, we stay in touch yeah x

I am so sorry for what you have been through. It really hurts that nobody cares! At least you have your kids around.

I am here if you need to talk. Just send me a message.

Post partum depression can be a very serious condition. I DO hope you will seek a diagnosis and treatment program.

Hugs.... sounds like you are going through so much. How long have you been feeling this way?? I’m sure it’s not easy to move to another state for a person and trying to live a life together. It’s must have been very hard for you. You mentioned you wan to see a counselor. It will do you a lot good to unload your burden. I know some churches do offer counselling service as well. You might wanna try one if there is one near your home. Go gentle with yourself. You need to take care of yourself before you can care for others. Take care and I’m keeping you in my prayer. God bless!

How old are your kids?

Question: Do you want to stay there? Or move back?

If what you really want to do is move back...then DO it.

If you want to try to meet people in the new town, then look to getting involved with one thing at a time. If you've got a car, something as simple as picking your kids up from school might help you meet other parents.

One step at a time, hugs, Patti