Dear Anna, I have too have a mother who can not control her anger and causes me physical and emotional pain. My advice is try not to dwell on it too much or you will just become more stressed. Your mum might be in a really bad mood but she still loves you deep inside cuz you're her daughter ( sometimes I just wish my mom came without anger though). All of us have sins, so dont hate yourself. In fact, never do that. Believe in God and also try to think before doing stuff. If you're still in a really bad mood, try to listen to music or just take a nap, or maybe go out with friends. I hope this helps. If you need any more help you can message me if you like. I hope this helps.

i am so, so sorry that your mother treats you like that. i don't know the inner workings of your mother's mind, but no matter what it is not ok for her to treat you like that, not the hits, and not the making you feel doubt about your own self worth.

you are NOT a horrible person, you do NOT destroy everything you touch. you are wonderful.

i don't know what your situation is, whether staying with your mother is a necessity right now, because i know unfortunately saying 'you should try and remove yourself if possible' isn't realistic advice, but even though you are strong and able to pull it together after an episode of abuse, i hope you can remember that in the quiet after that you don't deserve that treatment, that the lies she yells aren't true, that you are a good person.

Thanks guys i really appreciate your words i'm so alone now and these words make feel better about my situation , thanks again i'll never forget your words , i know that my situation one day will change . Hugs for you and God bless you guys !

See, its just not you, that's making her angry, when a lot of things add up, it just adds up in your head and you have to vent it out on someone. don't piss her off, observe her

every parent wants her child to get a good life (reason: they can't imagine their child's situation after their death) she wants you to stand up on your legs

be brave, help her out, joke around her, give her a hug, who knows she might even end up crying.

Hello Anna,.

Everyone gave you some really good words of wisdom.

I just wanted to add that my mother also had some really awful anger issues and some really poor parenting skills.

She ruined her relationship with her daughter.

I hope this doesn't happen to you and your mom, but you're right, it won't be forever, and I wanted you to know you're not alone.

Hugs

I'm not sure why, but, I think you need to hear this.

I just recently saw a guy talk about "worthlessness".

He held up a hundred dollar bill and asked who wanted it. Of course, the whole crowd chimed in.

Then, he took the bill, stepped on it, smeared it under his shoe....then asked again "who wants it now?" of course, the crowd chimed in.

Then he said, "I'll spit on it!" and did so! "Now, who wants it?" The crowd still chimed in!!

He asked, "Why?" Then said, "Because it still has value....it is still worth $100."

You see, people see your outside. You, yourself, think you are worthless.

But, God knows you are worth more. He sees your inside. He knows what is in your heart. He knows you are valuable. To me, you are valuable, too.

Hey girls i've been working in my relationship with my mom , sometimes she gets angry with any reason i think is my dad's fault because he leave us alone for go with hang out with his friends and my mom discharge her anger with my sisters and me , i'm trying to understand her situation and be more kind with her . Thanks again girls for comment my post your words made feel a little bit more good . God bless you , hugs

You have the fortitude and maturity of someone much older then you and that's a gift that you should be very proud of! Keep in mind that your mom and you are at different levels and no matter what she says of does to you, try not to let it bother you. Imagine a happy duck playing in the water in the pouring rain and that rain just slides off her back and has no affect on the duck. let all the hate that's aimed at you just slide off your back. Don't allow that hate to manifest itself inside you and alter the love that's in your heart! Hold on to that love because good things will happen to you if you do and that's a promise! You are a good person with a heart of gold. Just try to love those who hate or have anger issues. Their voices and their negative emotions are crying out for that love that you already have! Just be tolerant if you can. You are very special!

God Bless!

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very important not to lock yourself into a romance heroine role in a bad tv soap opera. Those things go on for years. Nobody resolves anything.

Don't wash face. Don't hold head up. Don't do these things. don't listen when people tell you how mature you are. you're not mature; you're self-repressed and misguided and soaking up toxins you need to learn to let wash down the drain. What is a 'good girl'???? What is that even???? this stuff is spurious garbage. This stuff is for children.

To react like a child: cry. Be hurt. Show and release the hurt, and expose her to what she is doing.

To react like an adult: bite back. Shout back. Show her you won't tolerate this. Ask her what being a good girl even is when it's at home. Bloody ridiculous.

Fact is you're not powerless. This isn't romance fiction and you don't have to go and wash your face and walk tall and have dignity and wait for apologies that will never come while you slowly eat yourself up inside with grief and rejection. That's the passive move. That's the damsel in the tower move. That move does NOT work in the real world AT ALL. Not with anybody.

You have to push back. if she screams? Scream louder. Give it a shot. See what happens. You're going to have to experiment and find out what shuts her down. You're going to have to raise her. What you have to do is avoid being the thing she has catharsis all over.

She's operating a racket and you have to stop her. it's part of learning to be an adult to push back on someone who treats you unfairly and teach them where your boundaries are. That's what the teenaged years are FOR. Don't waste your time being hurt.

I am sorry that you have to experience this with the person you that is supposed to nuture, take care of you, and love you. I just learned that my mother wanted me. So I totally understand how you feel and is here to talk to you whenever you need someone to talk to.